FS, WHATEVER you decide to do…DO NOT under any circumstances allow him to end your ability to work as a nurse. If you do, you will be COMPLETELY under his thumb. The question is, if you get a job and a divorce, are there enough matrimonial assets for you to develop some sort of stable life? You need a lawyer, you need to sit down and crunch the numbers, you need to see exactly where you are in all of this so you can make informed decisions. I understand fully about the benefits of the oil and gas business. That’s my husband’s line of work. I understand the set up in Saudi too. Were you intending to bring your parents back home to the states AFTER Xmas….if you went? Also, you mentioned he keeps losing job because he cannot get along with the women at work? So does he have any financial security or no?