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I’m just contemplating a blog post on love…
I’m sitting poolside after an hour 1-1 with my personal trainer friend who trained me in the days I had money and is now training me again for just £5 a week 2 sessions 1-1 because she knows how much trauma I’ve been through
I’m sitting poolside because my mum says I work too hard and need to care for myself so she treated me to a day spa with lunch where I can rest and recover
I spent an evening with friends who uplift me and encourageLove… Those things are love aren’t they?
Then, talking with my fitness friend we got talking about love and I was reminded of the bible passage – love others as you love yourself… And I remembered thinking … I don’t do that. I treat others better. I talk nicely, I give them time and encouragement. I make nice things for them. I give them the best of me…
I dont do that for me. And interestingly, I don’t give it to my children either who i fear I’m beginning to think I see as an extension of me … And therefore can treat badly maybe. Don’t get me wrong, I don’t hurt or neglect but maybe my focus is slightly wrong…
I don’t know but all this needs working out in my head and maybe with a therapist but what I have decided is that Monday morning is now my morning. I’ve booked a one to one again with the fitness friend and it is blocked out. I will treat it as the business meeting I used to make on a Monday come hell, high water, rain or shine. I will do it for me and my sanity. I love me that much! I will then have a healthy snack and do some chores and diarise the rest of the week.Please sisters… Hold me to account on this one!
I find loving myself is one of the hardest things to do. I take care of myself, but I don’t always put myself first. In fact I rarely feel like I can. I feel overwhelmed by work, children, my home and my fear of the futre.
I commend you for taking time for yourself and making sure that on Monday you come first. Fitness is a great choice as I hear it can have many positive impacts, both physically and mentally. I know all of this but cannot seem to motivate myself to get off of the dime.
Oh Jos, that’s been my big sermon here!!! It’s all about loving yourself, and not expecting others to do it for you. Loving ourselves is what creates the true compass for our lives. No amount of others loving us will take its place.
That’s how we learn to love others, by loving ourselves. We don’t love others instead of loving ourselves, either.My minister friend who just moved back to NC, and I have spend the last three years on this project of loving ourselves. It helps to enlist a partner/friend to explore what it means, share learnings, challenges and accountability.
It’s not easy. But it’s good.
Very interesting forum Jos. Wow love so much has been written or sung about it. I love the bible verse about it. I know what love is not. I know the people who truly love me and those who do not. I recognize self love gone wrong (narcissism) the extreme of course. I’ve seen selfless love. I have felt unconditional love and experienced sadistic love. I know the love of a pet and a good friend. Love can be eternal and endless or it can be short lived and forgotten. Love never changes I think it’s what people do with it and how much they respect and treasure it. Love is love. If weve every experienced true love from anyone we know it and they people we truely love know we do too.
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