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I get frequent inquiries from notables in the Sex Addiction field, but most do not amount to much.
But this came in this evening and could be something important.
I’ll contact him and see what they need.
Anderson Cooper is pretty big!
Hi JoAnn-
My name is Jessica and I am a producer with Anderson Cooper’s Daytime Talk Show. I would love to talk to you about an upcoming show that I am working on, can you please call me at your earliest convenience? I am very interested in your website and would love to hear more about it!
Thank you so much and I look forward to chatting! 212-xxx-xxxx
Cheers,
JessicaJessica Yankelunas
Anderson · Associate Producer · Telepictures Productions · 212-xxx-xxxxHave you seen his daytime show? I haven’t yet. Been wanting to check it out. Sounds like an interesting prospect. What ever happened to the Dr. Phil episode?
Thanks so much JoAnn for all the work you do on our behalf.
Much love, Claire
Joann,
I hope that this is an excellent opportunity to share your knowledge with the rest of the world. Yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Fantastic. The wider the audience the better. Stunning to think how many years many of us were in it before we had any idea what it was we were in TO!!!
wow JoAnn I hope it all pans out. I would love to see the message spread and have more people educated on this crazy disorder.
A plus ~ Anderson Cooper is dreamy!
I was talking to 2 of my college daughters and they said that all the guys at college are into porn, and not afraid to brag about it. They asked me if that means they will all have this sa thing. I didn’t know how to answer. Other than we need our society to have more awareness.
HeidiThis is great news! Anderson Cooper rocks!! I’ve always had a little “thing” for him myself!! Good luck!!
Jo Ann that is big!! Go for it! Very little is understood regarding SA and yes, many of us need more help with it. It’s a very real problem that destroys lives, jobs, marriages, self worth, etc!
I have written back requesting a time to call them for a discussion of what they are interested in. I have seen so many of these things fall through I guess I am just gun shy.
If it works out, that will be wonderful, and I will boldly go forward and state our needs. I will also boldly criticize what is dysfunctional in the SA process and state all that I have learned from each of you and your stories and comments.
Somehow, some way we will eventually be heard.
And, believe me, if I need your help you will hear my voice loud and clear.
I love all of my Sisters ~ JoAnn
JoAnn,
I know you have stated this somewhere, and it’s probably old news to everyone. I just have to state that I was shocked that my H’s CSAT (highly sought after and supposedly with a great success rate) started off the disclosure I attended by telling me he wanted me to know right up front he does not allow men to go into great detail in their descriptions of acting out incidences, and if he sees that the wives ask this constantly he believes they are just “pain shopping” and “want to wear the victim badge” and he can’t help anyone in that situation. He looked me right in the eye and asked me if that’s what I wanted. It wasn’t, at all, and it made me angry that he started things that way. I can see why H clicked with him right off. In there 3 minutes and already the focus is on what I CAN’T DO and where MY BOUNDARIES LIE!
Also, he had told my H before he ever met me that I was probably co-dependent, because I had been married before. That I probably married him too soon because I needed to be with a man! What professional can make that kind of assumption of someone based on third party (proven LIAR third party) input for one initial session? That is so stereotypical it stinks. I have been married before. He did turn out to be an SA, but I left him because of it. Did not enable and certainly did not condone. Leaving was the hardest thing I’ve ever done, he fought me for 3 years in court and out. I went through 2 years of counseling, and 5 total years away from that disaster, sought additional counseling and a professional service to only meet men who were carefully screened in rigorous FACE to FACE interviews, before I even dated. Still ended up with an SA who lied and had an excellent cover up when I met him.
I could not have sought more counsel or been more patient in meeting my H without seeking a Jewish mother matchmaker. Nothing against them, I think it’s a beautiful thing in an odd way. I am not seeking this, in any conscious or unconscious way. THEY are the predators! I just want that out loud and clear.
I am working on a piece of artwork to convey this. What if other women joined in this. Grant funds exist that could sponsor a traveling exhibit of work by women who have been impacted by this. I hope to be able to pull that together.
What a great idea lynng. I love it. Let me know if I can help in any way–I am a watercolor artist.
Now, just to update the Anderson Cooper thing, Jessica (the producer) and I have been playing phone tag. I just spoke with her and she was just going into a meeting with AC, so she said she will call me this afternoon. (I wish I could be in on that meeting!)
I will keep all of you posted.
Hi Lynn,
I think your SA’s csat guy is a bully and an intimidator. I think we need to get prepared for this shit. I’m wondering what would have been a good response to that (not suggesting you could have done anything but be intimidated by him and then your SA’s lies about you to him). But if we put our heads together….what response would be appropriate? Perhaps that these restrictions should have been given to you before, so you could have time to think about it, instead of being “dared” to disagree in an already upsetting and traumatizing situation.Good question Diane. After giving it some thought my response would be: “This is my life, my husband, and my marriage. I will ask any question I want and I expect an honest answer. I don’t live my life by what others choose to do. If I feel I need a detailed answer to a question, I’d better get it. I’m paying for your services to help me. I get to decide what to ask, not you.”
Love, nap
Great response NAP!
Mine would have been to tell them both to stick it up their asses.
The more I hear about these buffoon CSAT counselors the madder I get.
These are supposed to be the new, educated ‘experts’, yet what I see is a well orchestrated movement (plot) to put us all ‘back in our places’.
I think we need to put together a Resource Book for partners that addresses all of this bullshit and prepares us for battle against these well funded, very powerful men.
It’s not just men. My husband’s first therapist told him during their first meeting–again, she was basing this on the addict liar’s description of me and how I acted after discovery–that I sounded like a borderline and he should read “I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me.”
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