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Has anyone seen these? Fireproof is about a marriage shattering apart and it is clear that the husband has a pornography addiction. I think they did a pretty crappy job getting the point across. They refer to pornography as a “parasite” in your marriage.
Courageous on the other hand is simply amazing. It’s about the importance of father’s. They got the message across so well. I cried through 75% of the movie. In the end, I don’t think I watched this movie, I experienced it.
Both movies are high on Christian content. In Courageous, it seemed easy to insert your own spirituality in place of it.
I am buying this movie for each of my sons and son-in-laws on the birth of their first born.
Hi Kim, I have heard good reviews of both. I first found out about the movies from another sex addiction support forum, and a few recovering couples there said seeing the movies helped them. I have Fireproof here with me, but I haven’t watched it yet. I am also going to get Courageous too.
It felt like the writers (same ones for both) were writing from true experience in Courageous whereas in Fireproof it didn’t seem like anybody consulted the spouse of a sex addict when writing this. It wasn’t a bad movie, it just lacked something because I would have expected to be upsetting to me. And the problem was fixed all too easily. I think someone who isn’t married to a sex addict would think it was an excellent move.
I hope you enjoy it! Have lots of tissues on hand for Courageous. My H cried through most of it as well. Just TALKING about it made me cry! My kids were abandoned by their bio dad so it struck a cord with me. Yet the pornography addiiction did not. I’m weird. lol
I saw Fireproof and thought it used the SA as simply a symptom of being lost, with the ultimate solution as being saved. It skated over the SA and focused on the Christian message of salvation.
Since both H and I are already Christian, I know that being saved isn’t a cure for SA. Of course LIVING like you’re a Christian would prevent SA altogether, but that’s another story.
The reconciliation they show in the movie as a result of both partners being saved is so Hollywood and not how I’ve heard anyone’s recovery progressed.
When I was feeling distraught and so faint the other night due to my SA, I stayed up very late eating chocolate, sipping peppermint tea, and watched the movie Courageous.
Oh my gosh, I cried throughout it! It’s so moving and heartwarming. I felt so linked to their pain and grief, even though what I’m going through is different.
And I kept thinking wow, are good men real? I want a good man. It also made me laugh, which felt really good because that night for me had been filled with so much awful pain – if you’ve seen it you’ll know which parts I’m talking about.
Courageous was a really good movie.
I had seen fireproof first and was so disgusted with the cheesy presentation of porn and how nicey nice they were with their teeenie weeenie little spats and then their miraculous happy ending with rainbows and lollipops. It might be a good movie for someone who is still innocent of the impact of porn in a marraige.
But yeah, Courageous was good. I’m glad that gave you hope, Victoria. There ARE men out there like this. I have quite a few of them in my family. After this discovery, I went to talk to my aunts. I wanted to know if their marraige was the same at home as it is from the outside. Yes, it’s real. Full of love and respect and working thngs out together.
Sounds good, like a man who is worthy of your love, Victoria.
thanks ksondy – i just watched the trailer. I cant wait to see the whole movie.
Would it make my son want to be a better dad, or really hate his dad? My granddaughters first bday is in 2 weeks, thought it may be a good gift to give then, unless it made him pissed and my h. My kids are kind of delicate right now.March, LOL. So honored to meet you M.T.
Notice that post was 6 months ago. Boy what you can learn in 6 months with a sexual compulsive is amazing, isn’t it? Total destruction of brain cells, and heart and soul, but I think it counts as learning somewhere. Gee, that brings to mind the spiders on drugs.
And I am in a really bad frame of mind right now. At the time I saw Courageous, about 3 months ago, it really touched me. I thought it would be amazing if men really did have that kind of desire to lead, and had those kinds of supportive relationships with friends.
Now, I’m just plain mad. That they get all the applause for being real, honest, responsible adults. Forget the being a man part. Maybe I’ve just heard too many things from STBXSAH about what he’s done and how he doesn’t get any credit. NOW I feel like all this celebrating men who actually are what I consider MEN makes all those slugs sitting around being entitled feel even MORE justified because clearly everyone can’t be a hero like those sappy movie star guys play act they are.
I am so jaded and skeptical now I’m unbearable. Sorry sisters, I will improve my attitude, one day at a time.
There must be a few of those men out there. And I pray you all have the pleasure of knowing and being known by them. Not in the biblical sense. Known as in being recognized as the fantastic human beings you are (not just sex objects or obstacles in the way of sex objects), by MEN who are as amazing as you are.
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