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Hi Everyone, My H cancelled my internet service, so this is the first time I’ve been able to check in.
I closed on my house a few weeks ago and I have been there working my fanny off since. I’m exhausted but in a good way. I’ve been taking pictures to share one I finish up and get some internet service. I don’t have an I phone. I am moving in in two weeks.
Things are a little scary as far as a separation agreement. We have the judgement of divorce that my atty prepared to be final last Nov. We will use that as a legal separation and then file for divorce when he can refinance his house. I don’t want to have to renegotiate all this later. It’s kinda scary. He started to re-neg on some things so I have decided that, even though my house is ready, if he doesn’t honor our original agreement, I’ll just stay at our family home with him. Whenever I remind him of what we agreed upon, he says he was in shock… GAWD! Then he says he’ll give me anything to get me put of here. OK, yes please and thank you very much. He’s still really nice until we start talking about money or our history. We hardly see each other.
Lot’s to tell you. I LOVE my house. My kids are such a big help. Now I’ll try to catch up on all of you. Please send me your good will. The actual moving out part is kinda stressing me out,
Love you all, Debora
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So glad to hear from you Debora.
It sounds like you are finally going in the right direction. You waited and planned and now it’s paying off. I know moving must be so difficult but it will be so worth it!!
I will keep you close in my thoughts and prayers. It’s a huge step and long overdue for you. You fought the good fight and you won 🙂
Love you!!!
Congrats Debora! I just went through the exact same thing. It took a few weeks to get eveything together. Now, I can’t wait to come home! It is such a relief to get out of the marital home. I hope you will feel the same way. love, Tina
I wish you all the best in your new home Debora. I know you will make it a home with lots of love. I’m really happy and admire all you have done! Don’t let him hold you back, he’s coo coo for cocoa pops.
Love you, NapHey girl, I’ve been thinking of you so much this past week, so glad you checked in. God, I can’t wait till you’re rid of that motherfucker. Please take care, ok? Love you, Liza
P.S. Have I told you lately how much I love your soaps.. 🙂
I love soap. I may have a soap addiction. No one likes soap any more. Everyone wants a pump bottle or body wash …. I like soap 🙂
I’m not sure if she has a website anymore – if not, she needs to get on that as soon as she gets things sorted out with the divorce 😉 Seriously. PM her and see when she plans to make a new batch. I can’t begin to tell you how I enjoy her soap.
deborah, i’m proud of you too! can you get some of the things you guys are agreeing to in writing? verbal agreements with SAs make me nervous…
and yes, where can we get your soap!! 🙂
Hi Deborah,
I’m just in awe at your journey, and your persistence. I remember those early days and how hard things were. I think you doing some catering and now interested to hear about the soap making. YOu are just one of those people who does things. All along the way you did the ugly homework about your options and sorted out your options, and still tried to deal with him. Oh my you were beaten down but refused to give in. You totally inspire me, Deborah. And now with a new house ahead, I know you are going to make it. I hope without his big black cloud you will be able to pursue your many talents and starting living a life that you deserve.The moving is hard. Just keep going and know that at the other end you will have time to manage the feelings and understand yourself. If it helps at all, compose a little “prayer or mantra” to say as you leave each room behind, like:
“For laughter and caring, I give thanks and joyfully take it with me. But all burdens I carried here that were not mine to carry, I leave them behind.”Nice going Debora. Both moving and getting divorce each are two of the most stressful life events themselves but put them together at the same time – wow you are so strong, congrats!
Debora, so good to hear from you. I can’t wait to see the pictures of your new house! Wow, lots of good “outta of the swamp” energy today between you and Lisa! Keep it coming!
Hugs,
DaisyDebora your husband is a dick but you my friend are awesome. I can’t wait to see pictures of your new nest. xox
I want to see the soap too!! Bev, I am a soapaholic too!!! LOVE soap. My bestie and I just started making soap and is so fun. I made a great batch yesteday, a Lavender/ eucalyptis bar that came out quite good!! For a Beginner anyway. Debora I would love to see how a pro does it!! 🙂
Good luck with the new house. You did it!! That is awesome!
Hugs
MoniqueDebora, I am so happy that you will be moving into a house you love! This is just the best news. Looking forward to pics of it! xoxo
I’ve missed you Debora!
New house! How fun is that? 🙂
I’m so proud of you and all you’ve done. It’s been rough, I’m sure, but it seems like you are so close to the end of the SA mess. Wish I could help you move in!
Much love, Claire
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