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I’m about to slap the shit out him if he doesn’t quit whining. God . . . grant me patience . . please.
As most of you know, my SA and I are working on staying together. He’s doing the work in recovery, has one year under his belt, but now he has recently retired and he’s driving me nuts. I knew it was going to be an adjustment period, but it doesn’t help that I just had surgery and I’m not the most cheery gal in the world right now.
For two days now, he’s having trouble getting his iphone to update through itunes on the computer. First the program wouldn’t download; I fixed that last night. He downloaded the file but neglected to double click on the file to run the execution file. He let he damn thing sit there for two hours wondering why nothing was happening. Telling me how we should have never switched over to Windows 7, that was the problem in his eyes. He hates change. So I get the file up and running he plugs in the phone and it’s updating. That was last night. Now this morning he tells me it didn’t update. Surely he could follow on-screen instructions to update his friggin phone. I have no clue what he did wrong. And to top it off, he assumed it was a bad file so he deleted it and now he wants me to try it on my computer because his can’t do it. Geeeezuuuus. How friggin hard can it be? I don’t have an iphone, I have a Samsun Focus that is a Windows phone. It’s cheaper and it runs great and is never a problem to update.
I finally told him to call AT&T and let them help him because clearly I don’t have the patience to deal with him or the friggin phone!
I’ve got to start thinking of things I need him to do in town to get him out of this house.
Thank you for letting me vent! Now I’ll take a pain pill, put an ice pack on my shoulder, and hopefully relax for a few minutes before he comes back in the house for the umpteenth time this morning.
I asked him to build a shelter for the horse, he’s out there working on it. I just wanted 4 posts and a roof so she can get out of the rain. But noooooo, the stupid thing is starting to look like a mansion. We have soooo many things to do around here, why can’t he just do it, get it done, and move on to something else.
Again, thanks for letting me vent. I think I’m done for now 🙂
Tire, stressed out, and just want peace . . . Claire
Hi Claire,
I thought of some tips to help you:
1. Pretend he’s George Clooney then you dont care what stupid things he does.
2. Give him a super long grocery list and make sure 5 of the items are hard to find.
3. Call his employer and try to get his job back.
4. Have him build a maze for the minature donkeys
5. Rent a Mack truckThere is hope!
Love Nap
Hi Claire,
You make me laugh and that is good? 🙂 What is with these guys? They want mothers NOT wives! 🙂 God…maybe retirement will drive you to do what SA didn’t?? Take care of YOU. Karen xx
Claire,
I’m laughing too 🙂 cause you’re so cute! I’m also feeling so sorry for you hon, hang tight. I like NAPs suggestions…long grocery list, donky maze! Maybe it will be hard for him to find his own way out of a maze if you design it carefully enough, hee hee.Wishing you peace and rest!
LindyHa haaaa haaa !!! Laughing to hard!! Maybe he will build himself into the maze. Make sure he does not have his phone with him to call 911!
Claire,
Hope you have at least a small smile on your face by now. These guys really ARE like children, aren’t they? Or at least like tweens. Which is probably worse.
Hang in there…hope your pain level is coming along.Hugs to you!!
JulieThanks guys. Yes I do have a smile on my face and that’s because you helped me to see the humor in this crazy life of mine! Love your ideas, NAP. Have to tell you I already sent him grocery shopping earlier this week and he DID have trouble finding things even though I listed the items in order to find them in the aisles starting from the entrance door! The donkey maze; I think I might like for me to get lost and seek some peace and quiet.
I could continue the story and really make you laugh more, but my shoulder begins to hurt after I type for a while.
We had a little talk tonight where I told him that in order for me to heal from this surgery and deal with the physical therapy I really need less drama around here. He agreed that he wasn’t thinking about me as much as he should be and apologized for getting so pissed about the whole phone fiasco.
Good grief, I don’t have the energy right now to deal with these stupid antics. I’m just going to have to try to ignore his stupid shit stuff and take care of myself.
Keep me smiling ladies, I do appreciate it.
Much love, Claire
Mansion…you crack me up! But more seriously, I am sorry for your struggles. It doesn’t sound easy. You are adorable! Take care of yourself…hot bath, cup of tea, great book, EAR PLUGS!
love, bClaire, you are quite an example to the rest of us.
NOw you just keep telling him what you need. Don’t be tiptoeing around on eggshells. Tell him you think he’s up to it.
Don’t overdo it yourself! We want you healed!
Diane xoI have to empathize with him on the iPhone though. Sorry! I have windows 7 and I went to upgrade to iOS 5. I’ve built my own computer in the past. I’m far from computer illiterate. But I had nothing but problems and it took me 6 hours to do the update. lol iPhones are so user friendly but I personally think iTunes is the most half-ass-backwards program ever made. 🙂
Just keep giving him tasks to do far away from you. Look at the shed turned mansion as a blessing, it is using up more of his time OUTSIDE!
My husband follows me around like a puppy, always wanting to be helpful to make up for what he’s done. As if getting me a glass of wine is gonna do it. He works from home. He never leaves. Except to go to meetings. He drives me insane. You have my sympathy.
Hmmmmm. It does seem like it is feast or famine with these guys? That makes me think back to a lady I knew in another group who was divorcing her SA and trying to get him out of the house. I asked her if he would leave willingly. Her response “Are you kidding? There are clawmarks on the door jam from his finger nails!” That image always cracked me up…… 🙂 Karen xx
Hi Claire,
Hope your doing well and you haven’t lost your
marbles yet. If you see any of mine could you hold them
for me 🙂
Love ya, napI sent him to the dump. I mean, to take our trash to the dump! We don’t have service out here so at least once a month we have to haul stuff off. This time in particular we had an abundance of crap because I made him start cleaning out the garage.
I feel like a bitch always telling him what to do. But in retirement now, he keeps talking about everything he wants to get done, but with his ADD brain, I can tell he doesn’t know where to start and what to do when. So I just keep politely mentioning things that need to get done and how I wish I could do it but I can’t because of my shoulder surgery. (it’s a subtle hint and it usually works everytime!)
It’s time to make lists and prioritize.
But, yes, he’s still alive. We just need to keep talking. I told him he should be taking some time to work on his steps now that he has time. He agreed that he needs to get organized and maybe schedule himself a little better. We’ve never been retired before so it’s a learning process for both of us. Just wish it hadn’t occurred right now.
There will be more days where I just want him out of my sight, but I should be able to start driving next week and if I start feeling like that again, I’ll just take off and go shopping!
I just realized that Thanksgiving is only a few weeks away. Crap, I dread the holidays anymore.
Claire
I hear you on dreading the holidays Claire… the only thing that keeps me from becoming the Grinch from Hell is to think back to better times before I even knew what the F*ck a SA was. Hang in there sister, Love you, Liza
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