Oprah’s Life Class

Hi All,
I know that i have made references to this in the past. She has an online lifeclass with pod casts, and she also has her Oprahs life class show on OWN. Its an hour long, and so far has been running about three weeks, a new show each weeknight.

So i have been recording them, but have not had time to watch…until yesterday.

This show is A MAZ ING. Everything that we talk about on here, that we suspect, that we try to get across…is in this show. She has shared a lifetime of knowledge and learning, yet she has never been to traditional therapy. The people in her life, the people on the show, everyday events have taught her what she knows. And boy does she have it down.

One of the topics i posted on here…was when they show you who they are beleive them. I had an idea of what this meant, but she explains it even better. She says that first its a whisper, then its a tap, and then its an Ohhh Shit. Right? She says to listen to your lifes guidance while its still a whisper, so that brick wall doesn’t come down of you.
The tap is the little nagging feeling that soemthing is not right. The taps are the porn on the computer, the found hookers, DVD rentals, calls from GF’s etc, and the ohhh shit…is the day you find out about the sex addiction.
She says that we choose not to beleive, becasue if we choose to beleive it, then something has to change. Most often we would have to walk away. Instead of taking it for what it is, we rationalize, minimize and deny. She says not to ignore the things that tug at your attention.

I started writing down some of the quotes.

They may not show who they are exactly, but will show you in many instances who they are.

All secrets are control strategies. If someone is keeping secrets from you, you are being controlled and thats not love.

Never stay in a situation based on potential, potential is not a quality or trait. Potential is not a quality, its a fantasy.

You can accept or reject the way you are treated by other people, but until you heal the wounds of your past, you will continue to bleed.

After and affair, decide for yourself if you can get over it. If you can… then really get over it. If you can’t then move on from the relationship. don’t live in between.

(((This is a big one. I do fear that many of us are trying to live inbetween. We try desperately to make it work and get over it. But there is nothing we can do to make our soul/our true self to get over it. I think that you can insert the words sex addiction and lies in for an affair, its all the same. If we cannot get over it we need to move on.

and change only happens when we move on. She says that sometimes we get numb going through our lives. We cannot even hear our inner voice anymore. And when you don’t hear your inner voice you cannot live for you, and you will remains stunted and stuck.))))

Pay attention to the messages your life is sending you. The voices of the world can drown out your intuition if you are not paying attention.

The only person you have control over is yourself. You can change how you see a situation or remove yourself from it, but you cannot change the other person.

Take responsibility for your life. I am responsible for what happens to me. I am the only one which can bring change in my life.

You cannot improve your life if you surround yourself with energy that brings you down. ((SA’s))

Now that you know better, do better. ((We know better now))

Which brings me to another thing i have always felt. You must either accept or reject the way your life is being lived. that means the poeple in it, your job, where you live. We are not at all responsible for our h’s addictions. However we are responsible for our lives and our life choices.

I also finally get how therapists say you relive your past. However that in know way explains it, almost blames you, or demeans you. What oprah says is that you still carry that negative energy of your past, and you carry it forward with you. This makes sense. You carry it forward with you and you carry that dark energy. Its still there for me, i can feel it now. How to let go of your past…i don’t know…but i think i am close to figuring it out. So this dark energy in us we carry around, and what we project we receive. I am a positive person, but that dark energy and sadness from my childhood is still there.

And sometimes i think that my life has been so full of everyone elses chatter for some long…i never heard my own. Ever. Only slight glimpses here and there, typically on my way to the alter. But then it was too late.

But i wanted to share with you all this show. And if we can “get this” what she has to teach, i think we will all be able to move forward with our lives and learn from this disaster that fell upon us.

Because thats what this is. Its the oh shit moment. And we can either wake up and smell the coffee, and try to recieve what our life is telling us, or we can continue on.

I think being in these relationships is our wake up call. And until we get it…it will happen over and over…until we do.
I am not completely sure what “it” is, however i think i am well on my way there.

Love to all,

flora