OMG Dawn. This is all so discouraging. Do not trust or believe anything your SA says during the first year after disclosure! I want to get to the place where I stop focusing on his stuff and focus on me. Right now I’m swimming in so much information, trying to figure what on earth hit me. This website makes me wonder why any of us stay, except for those who must stay financially. I get that. 36 years and half the days I’m ready to bolt. What are all these acronyms “SYTBXH”? etc. I get SA and SAH, beyond that, I’m stumped.