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Please welcome our new Sister deborahc1171.
deborahc1171 wrote in her profile that she joined the Sisterhood because she is the spouse of a Sex Addict.
Welcome deborahc. I am glad you are here because I know that you will find honest information and resources, but I am sad that you ‘need’ to be here at all.
As you read through the topics and comments I know you will find stories that resonate with your experiences. If you feel like sharing we are all here for you. Just let us know what you need.
Love and light for your journey. ~ JoAnn
Welcome Deborah, You have landed in a safe spot. There is much grief share, wisdom and even a wicked sense of humor here. Read through the forum topics and you will catch up quickly. Debora
Hi, Deborah,
Welcome to SOS. I’m so sorry for the pain and trauma I am sure you have been through and are going through. No one wants or deserves this. You are safe here among women who have been there. We are glad you found us.Welcome Deborah. I’m glad you found your way here to the Sisterhood. We’re here when you’re ready to share. Let us know how we can help.
Hugs,
DaisyHi and welcome Deborah, so sorry for what you have had to endure. Do you have any children? This is a great site with real caring sisters.
Welcome Deborah.. Sorry for everything you have and are going through.. Please know your not alone xoxo
HI there,
thanks for reaching out. I hope that sharing information, questions, challenges, stories with the sisters will help you to feel supported, and find your own path forward. I’m sorry you are in this mess and please know we will care for you and with you as best we can.
Light for the journey
Diane.So sorry you have experienced the painful betrayal that brings sisters here. This is a unique sanctuary from the storm. We get it, and we are here to share and support eachother as best we can. Hope you find some comfort here.
Hugs, Lynn
Deborah – welcome to SOS. I’m incredibly sorry for the pain & trauma that brought you here.
Christine
Hi Deborah, Sorry you have to join this club. But you will see that since you do- it will help you. It’s helping me a lot.
Hi Deborah, Sorry you have to join this club. But you will see that since you do- it will help you. It’s helping me a lot.
Thank you all for your support, and I wished I had found this group two years ago. Yes, Gail I have two girls, ages 18 and 26. They are both aware of their father’s porn addiction. I didn’t really want to tell them, but they knew something terrible was wrong and asked me what the fighting was all about. I did not go into the details of their father’s porn addiction, but stated that he was seeking counseling to address the problem. That was 2 years ago, but treatment only works if a person is honest….SA’s in my opinion are notorious compulsive liars. I can’t see this marriage working, and the continual emotional abuse just seems to keep me in a constant state of PTSD. Oh by the way, did I mention I’m also a clinical therapist….which for me is a gift and a curse all at the same time. I’ve been really hard on myself, thinking how and why did I put up with his emotionally abusive behaviors. We’ve been married for 27 years, and his porn addiction/compulsive masturbation has been going on for our entire marriage….I’m not even sure if there were other sexual addictive behaviors. I’m trying to put myself emotionally back together, and SOS has helped me not feel so alone. Thank you all.
Deborah, We have several therapists among us, so don’t be too hard on yourself. I think in general, people don’t understand the manipulation and emotional abuse, how insidious it is and how hard it is to get your head around it and do something. Plus we all really want to keep our families together, to not have to miss seeing our kids on weekends and holidays, the financials stability, the concern of a sex/porn addict alone with kids…There are so many reasons why we stay and try to make our marriages work. So don’t be so hard on yourself. Most of us have been in the same boat.
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