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“Before you diagnose yourself with deression or low self esteem, first make sure, in fact, you are not surrounded by assholes.” ponderabout.com
this is so true!!! A while ago i was depressed, i thought it was everything else, SAD, the weather, my life, the kids, work…not my h?? Well it was my h. And i was doing my best to deal with it, and in doing so lost my self to depression. And this happened by not honoring myself and doing my best to be happy with him. but it was not possible. So we must be careful of this. and yes i always thought i had low self esteem and a bout with drepression..however i was married to an asshole. I never realized this until all of this happened. This is a bright side of what all of this has brought about. i know this about myself now. And if i find myself in this situation again, i know very well what it means.
Love, flora
Thank you Flora,
This is so true. Honoring oneself should be first on our personal care list. Surrounding ourselves with honorable people should be a priority. But, how easy it is to let it slip off that list. Wish it were on a refrigerator magnet!
Love, LindyI am so in agreement!
I was a naturally optimistic person, and slowly, over 30 years I became negative, depressed and unhappy.Then, I put distance between my life and my SA’s life. What a difference some distance makes.
I’m back! Optimistic. Happy. Strong. Determined.
Sometimes I read posts from women who are clearly unhappy and depressed, but also will not entertain any idea that it’s because they have become enmeshed in a very sick and dangerous person’s life. That’s too bad. Because nothing will change until they take responsibility for their own lives and their own happiness. It is all about the stewardship of our own lives.
That is an amazing quote. I have come to the valley again, but I think I am my lowest of all time. About two days ago I curled up and snuggled up in the bottom of a closet. Then closed the doors. The rejection and cruelty from my kids and others has been unbearable. Would I feel like this if I was around people who supported me and wanted me to protect myself? Of course my sister is ALL about medication, medication, medication. What about situation, situation, situation! I love it Flora!!! and Diane-you nailed it too! Once we realize that quote is true, we need to be good stewards of our lives.
My fear…I no longer have the strength to be the steward of my life. I have no strength left. I fear this sadness and depression will last forever. Scary!
Love, B. Trayed
Oh, beautiful B-Trayed,
You do have the strength. But you need some support to help you believe it again. Your family have dealt you a grievous blow. It’s awful to be in that place where you just can’t do one more thing. I believe you need some attention from a health professional. Please see your doctor about the depression, and ask for a mental health referral. No one can do this on their own.I’m sending you lots of good gospel light, my dear sister. Remember that the isolation they have created is not the truth at all.
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diane.hi B-trayed,
Ya know i think you just may have hit the nail on the head. It may be very helpful for you to branch out and get support from others, who may not be your family and kids. Do you think that would help?? What about church. Have you been able to find another to go to, i remember this was a huge part of YOUR life.Love,
FloraI love this! It is so true
got to fly volleyball regionals!
btrayed…….. i piled a bunch of junk on my closet floor so I can’t crawl in there anymore!! 🙂 (and it is not a walk in closet!)
I love sayings and quotes and I LOVE this one! Thanks for sharing Flora!
B-trayed – I truly believe that this yucky feeling won’t last forever. I am learning that more than ever I need to surround myself with positive people. I am naturally positive and happy, but I’ve needed extra little boosts from fabulous people and my precious pups. I am having more days where I catch myself singing and dancing around the house, which I have always done my whole life. It’s not all the time, but I am grateful for those moments.
~ Shaken Not Broken
B-trayed,
Tell me about the goodness of you. At the retreat I met a loving, kind, thoughtful, faithful, caring, gentle, wonderful person. That is the b-trayed I saw.
Everyday, pretend you are wearing an invisible crown (author unknown). I know the pain of having those you love and have protected, turn their backs on you. But, we all know the goodness in you.
Love, Jeannette
b when we met at the retreat i envied your belief in god and the bible. you are one of the strongest women i have ever met. you have such a strong foundation to grow upon. please just give yourself time to heal the rest will fall into place. as far as your kids, they will come around yours are like mine i was always the stronger parent so they felt i could handle what ever came my way. they too stood by my ex even though they knew first hand what life was like it took some time before they were able accept things for what they really were.
much love kattHi Bt,
Hope your today is brighter. I have heard so many nice things about you. Celebrate who you are!
Love, napWOW, I just checked back on this thread, and wasn’t I loved to death!!! (sorry to take over Flora’s quote post!)
I am touched beyond measure at the
encouragement
direction, and
support
you have all given me! I feel stronger! (and my closet is super small too Heidi!)
Love ya all, B. Trayed
B-You are such an amazing woman. I felt such good energy from the moment I saw you with your camera in the Borders parking lot a few weeks ago! It has to be so painful to not have your kids in your corner. It may take them awhile to really understand. They may be grasping at what they can to keep you two together, and of course your husband is using that to his advantage. You are so loved…keep that thought with you at all times. And call me anytime!!
Love,
Your friend and sister, Julie
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