Red flags with man I am dating

Ok, is this red flags or me being triggered?

Have gone out with this man several times, and I like him. But he’s said a few things that sent me into another room to catch my breath and I’m thinking about just dropping this altogether.

Once, at the farm when a girl volunteer said she’d leave the door to the bathroom in her unit open so people could use the restroom because the other was occupied, he said jokingly “What makes you think that’s all I’d do?” My mind went bad places, everyone else laughed.

When we were getting coffee at a bookstore he said “I like my women like I like my coffee, hot and black.” I just turned around and walked away and didn’t look back, He had to come find me. I told him I lacked the proper pigmentation and he just looked down. We’ve had a lunch, and then a dinner and concert date since then with nothing said that triggered me.

This morning he came to fix a faucet at my house, and I served him coffee and he started his coffee comment again, and then he stopped himself on the last words seeing my face and apologized and tried to backpedal with “Well, you’ll never forget how I take my coffee, will you?” and I said, “No, I’ll never forget the first four words of that statement, never”. It was a very, very cold moment and so early on it might make this thread a futile inquiry.

We went to the hardware store and were trying to find the right faucet he held up a set and said “Well, if these don’t fit we could use them as a torture device,” and my blood went out of my head and I almost fainted right there. Then I got so angry I was seeing red and couldn’t catch my breath. His back was turned, because he was looking over parts, so he didn’t notice. I picked up one and held it to his groin and said “Here’s one your size, Honey”. I KNOW my voice was razor sharp because another man on the aisle looked up in alarm and backed away. Geez, I am a public menace now.

My date just backed up saying “Now hold on just a minute” and pushed my hand away, then kept looking over parts. I walked around the store and found him at the register when he was done. I was physically sick. His aunt called him when we were in the car saying she was coming over to his place, (he said, who knows, he could have asked someone to call and rescue him from psycho bitch while we were apart). We got home, he changed the faucet in about 5 mins, and left with a cursory hug and “I’ll call you later”.

I have been true to my feelings on this, and asked one date to leave when picking me up because he made a joke about porn before we had even left. Another really fabulous man I told I wouldn’t see because it seemed his primary focus was getting me in bed (which I would have LOVED, thank you, but not so fast and how about a conversation?)

Is it just me? Are those comments really red flags? I can’t believe I’m asking this, I should know, for me. I should just know.