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Dr. Phil says “every relationship needs a hero.” Anyone navigating a relationship with a SA is a hero in my book. The question is, for those of you who have hung up your capes, when did you know the exact moment that you were done? As a self-professed waffler, I just think it’s an interesting question.
Zg. I believe tonight is the first time I allowed myself to realize that Im done. At least as done as a waffles gets
I have not officially hung up the cape. But the tights have def come offWhen I saw that he put absolutely no effort, none, zilch, nada to try and repair the damage he caused.
I once told him, early on, that he would put into this as much effort as “we” were important to him.
Whether he chose to do anything or nothing, would still speak volumes to me.When my son was hurt, I found evidence he had sex outside the marriage, and he didn’t show any remorse and said he wanted a divorce.
If he had shown remorse and not wanted the divorce, I would have agreed to a separation to give it some time and to give me time to deal with my son’s and my trauma.
Here’s something I think is just wrong. Our marriage counselor met with us a couple days after D-day, and she told us that we should get a divorce. I was reeling and devastated and could hardly function, and I then to have that piled on me before I was ready was awful. I think she was out of line to say that. Of course, she was also the one who told me to have more sex with him and let herself be manipulated to gaslight me, so like another CSAT told me- don’t worry about anything she told you. Just write the whole experience off.
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