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I’m kind of in a bummed out mood tonight. I’m pretty sure my wedding ring(s) and a pair of diamond earrings were stolen. My rings basically consist of a diamond engagment ring, the wedding band, and a 5-diamond anniversary band that were all soldered together. Now you’re probably wondering, with the iffy state of my marriage, who cares? Good question, but really they do have somesentimental value, and maybe more importantly, $$ value for me, should I need it. I actually haven’t been wearing them, but the other day, before my first day of work, I was going through my jewelry boxes and noticed they weren’t in the box I’ve been keeping them in. I had put them back there right after Indiana. I looked again 2 days ago, and then again tonight, just to make sure I had checked all other little jewelry boxes. Well, low and behold, a pair of diamond earrings I had gotten for a gift from the hubby about 5 years ago were gone. (They had been there over the weekend.) My son, David, had a group of guys over, and one of them is a relatively new aquaintance. We can’t point fingers, but David said he’s heard rumors that he’s into drugs. On top of that, his dad is a politician in our area. I know they’re just “things”. Still, I just feel really violated that someone went in my room. And ultimately, I wanted it to be MY choice if and when to wear this jewelry, etc etc. Thanks for letting me vent. 🙁
…and yeah, to be materialistic, I really maybe could have used them for money in the future. Why not?
ZG,
So sorry that is so sad. Is there anything you can do, like call the police to report. Sometimes you can find them at local pawn shops they sold them to for the cash. Maybe you could check with them.
Love, NapZG,
So sorry for how you are feeling right now. Are you absolutely sure that your H didn’t take them. Maybe he pawned them for the money. Just guessing, here. I hope they turn up. I know I would feel awful if I lost mine.
Much love, Claire
ZG, I’m so sorry. I know exactly how you feel. I had some of my jewelry stolen from my apartment years ago and I know that feeling of violation. I still get that same feeling even today when I think about it
You are not being materialistic, those were your things. They belonged to you and had sentimental as well as monetary value.
I do hope they turn up. Contacting the police right away increases the chances of you recovering them.
Big hugs my dear.
Love, JoAnn
Of course you feel violated!!! Grrrr!!! That makes me soooo mad!!! I wish I could hunt down the perp myself so they would have to deal with MY wrath!!!! Ugh!!
Interesting that CB brought up the possibility of your SA, just to throw it in the mix. Hmmm…. I would like to think NOT, however, just FYI, even though I obviously don’t wear mine anymore, I have them hidden far, far away…. For that very reason! I do take into consideration though that we are not in the same “place” in our relationships with our SA’s, but still…. They DO lie and cheat… Just sayin…..
But who knows…. You may never find out the truth but I hope you do! I would be mad even to this day or next year or whenever if mine were taken- so I completely I understand! Like you, I want the choice to do as I choose with MY personal property!!
Big hugs to you, Zgirl!!! We love you more than all the diamonds in the world!!! XOXO!!!Thanks guys. As far as my SA, it did cross my mind briefly, but it would be SO far from his MO when it comes to money. Not that I think he’s morally incapable (LOL!), but doing something like that would be WAY too much trouble for him.
The other thing that is really making me sad is how sad David is–he was talking last night about how awful he feels thinking someone he knows did this. Welcome to adulthood, where people disappoint and betray you. 🙁
yes. big (((hugs))) honey. I also thought of your h, because the timing is quite extraordinary with your returning to work?
I would be really upset too… hugs, again!
Does you mind take pictures? Sometime when I think I’ve lost sometime I try to remember the last time I saw it in the form of a picture and what was sitting around it. Often find things this way like my keys ect, I guess I’m still hoping they are there somewhere, thinking of you!
Love, NapHey ZG, I would be so angry too. I’m hoping that whoever did this will one day tell you. It happened to me like that and I never did recover the jewelry, but just knowing how it disappeared felt better.
LindyAll of a sudden, I’m having a mini panic attack, thinking, what if it WAS my SAH? I mean, that seems like the most bizarre scenario ever, given that we’re not struggling for money (unless there’s something I don’t know). He’s also got a good handle on finances, and you have to take pictures and give your name at most pawn shops. But then again, what ISN’T bizarre at this point in life? God, I just feel like I can’t trust anything. I wish I had a closet full of jewelry so I could set a trap for someone. Anyway, just had to vent myself out of my panic attack. Thanks for reading. You ALL are really my precious diamonds. XOXOXO
ZG, I’m kind of sorry I put that thought into your head, about your SA taking it. 🙁 I wasn’t sure of your situation with him as far as whether or not you can trust him much these days. Certainly if he was wanting to act out and not have your normal finances show any withdrawals or something then he would consider pawning them. But then again, if he’s hopeful that you two will work things out, why would he take your rings. He would want that ring on your finger.
I hope you’re feeling better. I hate that I may have caused your panic attack. Wanna come over and slap me upside the head? 🙂 It would make me feel better.
I wouldn’t feel it anyway, my shoulder hurts so bad today.
Much love, Claire
Oh Claire, trust me; you did NOT put that thought in my head. It was in there already. It just came back out to visit later this afternoon. I think part of it is that I also don’t want to believe one of these nice teenagers would have done it. Even the one we suspect is generally polite and friendly. It’s this disease of my SA’s that messed with my head, not YOU by any means!!! I still don’t feel any where near trusting yet. I definitely will NOT slap you upside the head. I’ll save it for someone who deserves it.
Much love and don’t think anything of it. Get your rest and get stronger!!!
Love and painless hugs to you,
JulieDon’t worry CB, you weren’t the only one who thought THAT. For many of us, it was the first thing that popped in our heads! You were just the only one to have the balls to put it out there!!! LOL!!!
Love you both!!! This happened for a reason… We’ll figure it out one of these days!!! XO!!oh ZG I am so sorry to hear that your jewelry is missing, I too know how this feels. My youngest son took most of my jewelry and sold it for his drug addiction. grrr Its very upsetting, you feel so vulnerable and violated.
Ok I just checked to see if my ring was still there, after I read every ones post (even though I haven’t worn it in over 2 months I still want to be the one that makes the decision what is to become of that ring) phew it was there….. SAH came over to get some of his stuff today while I was at work (yes I preferred it this way) and after reading all the posts I had a panic attack thinking OMG he wouldn’t dare, boy he was lucky I was ready to kick some SAH ass.
I hope you will find that you just misplaced it and your ring will show up.
{{{hugs}}}
JacDear Z Girl,
I am afraid your SAH taking it was my VERY first thought…..and since I am admitting that…I may as well say I am thrilled you found work BUT you have to be careful too. When a woam thinks she may end up divorced establishing herself as MORE independant BEFORE the divorce usually works in the husband’s favour. 🙁 I know, I know…..it is like you cannot win! Is just that if he thinks you may be going to end the marriage having you employed will definately work to his benefit….Again sorryZ Gilr but I don’t trust anything about your husband and I don’t want to see him win anything else at your expense. I CANNOT believe he had the nerve to say that you being a stay at home mom (as you both decided) in ANY way contributed to his sick activities. GOD HELP US! Karen x
Thanks, NAP! I filed a police report, and now we’re just waiting. I called a few pawn shops, but they don’t want to be bothered without a police report. It’s probably what they deal with all day, if ya know what I mean. So we’ll see–it’s in the cops’ hands now (ie, my Higher Power, lol!!)
love ya,
ZGHi sisters,
Just wanted to post an update. First of all Jac and Karen, thank you for your posts! I feel so bad–I just saw them. Usually I catch up on things pretty well, but I guess I’ve been pre-occupied. Jac–I’m so sorry about your story. 🙁
That must have been heart-breaking. 🙁
So ladies, we are in full investigation mode, with a likely suspect. We’re at the point of the police just trying to get enough evidence to press charges. Interestingly enough, the prime suspect’s dad was just elected as Town Justice last week! Yippee! So the local officer in charge of my case is getting ready to hand it over to the DA’s office. This past weekend, we all had to give statements, including friends of my son and daughter that were here during the time frame the items were stolen. I felt badly about putting teenagers through this, but they were all troopers and willing to help. (One of the moms wasn’t too crazy about it. I suppose I don’t blame her.) I feel worse for my son. He fears repurcussions from friends of the suspect. I keep reassuring him that he’s doing the right thing. I hope this will be a good life lesson that pays off. So cross your fingers for me. I still can’t believe this situtation, where somebody we WELCOMED into our home would do this. (And just fyi, when I don’t wear my good jewelry, it’s not hidden per se, but it IS tucked away in boxes within a larger jewelry box. Really sad…)
Thanks for all of your support.
Love ZG
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