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My iPad wont let me click the button to start a new topic, so I’m posting this here, since it was a great antidote for my own anger. Oh, that they could all suffer such consequences for their perversion…
http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/04/09/eel-removed-from-man-stuck-colon-photo_n_3046785.html
No words of wisdom to offer just…saying I get it. The lies, the bottomless pit of lies…I get it. sorry. 🙁
I need to hear this today…had a very “reasonable” convo with H yesterday and it’s giving me hope that he can be normal but I know he can’t be. Here’s your laugh for the day…he said, “if we end up divorcing, we have to promise each other that one of us won’t drain the bank accounts.” I’m like – “Are you serious? Given your history, don’t you think I’m the one who needs to worry about you doing that and not you worrying about me doing that?” At the time, I just brushed it off but now that I really think about it, I just can’t believe he would say that!
FC, I hate that when they act like we are just as untrustworthy as they are or that they are afraid of us. It just galls.
That just tells you what passes for “reasonable” when you’ve been with them long enough. The frog in the pot syndrome. Good for you for being able to wave off his magic spell, FC.
march – I wonder if I can give my stbx an eel for a pet?
last night at my daughter’s bball banquet my h sat in another room by the bar and tried to watch from there. Anika whispered what is he doing over there? I went and told him there is a chair next to our table he could sit at. He acted all meek and scared and said “are you sure”. He stared at me the entire time with an about to start crying face. It was embarrassing. It was over the top obvious and queer. I ignored him and had fun. Then I get home and he sends me a text saying that he is going after half of my LLC!!!
I was thinking what the hell was all the theatrics about then? Because he went from pathetically sad to asshole in a half hour. Duh! The coaches were all in the front of the room – that show was for their sake so they could think, pooooooor peter is going to cry pine-ing away after his wife who didn’t let him sit with her and his daughter. And every time my wine was empty he ran like a good boy and got me another, even though I didn’t ask or want it. What a weenie. His show was mostly for the coaches, and other parents.
The sad, the wine, the rejected dad in the other room, the blinking back tears in front of a lot of people. What a drama king. Oh yeah the night was supposed to be about Anika, her team and her awards.
I am working on my finances right now. You are right nap, he may get a lawyer.
Oh yeah, I’d bet the farm if I had one, would of had part of one but my mother dis willed me 2 wks ago, oh well….
Just keep being really smart Heidi. Get a good lawyer and never, never feel sorry for him. He will lie cheat and steal to prevent you from what you want and get everything they want. They’re slimy bastards in divorce so hang tough and strong. I’d go ‘no contact’ now so he has no clue what you’re thinking or doing. He’ll lie to everyone and put on his little shows, it’s all about him. A true narcissist. I hope I’m wrong but I don’t trust him, at all.
Heidi, as I recall, you have actual print-outs of embarrassing online shit? Things he wouldn’t want people to see?
Heidi, next time the motherfucker raids the fridge, have some of that meatloaf he loves so much on hand. Just make sure you add castor oil to the ketchup topping.
March I have a lot of evidence of bad stuff 🙂
Two days ago he sent my lawyer a 8 page email of what he thinks should happen. It was very different and unrealistic. It did not sound like him or they way he writes at all. And it quoted legal stuff he pulled off the internet. He always puts things in his own words (plagiarism is wrong and he wont break those kind of rules) I don’t think he wrote it. I believe he has a girlfriend now, so who knows, something fishy is going on. I told him I cancelled the app with the lawyer and I went alone. We spent 2 hours today hashing out worse case scenarios . I feel pretty good about our game plan. I think I will be ok. I expected him to not agree to my offer, where I get all of mine and half of everything he has. hehe. So I was mad at first, but I feel prepared. We will meet next week and I will concede a few things.
Nervous but excited to be done.Heidi,
You are doing great. I know it’s so totally weird to observe their crazy behaviors and how quickly they can change. This is bizarre shit, no doubt. They are so far from the men we thought we married. How the hell did all of this happen to each and every one of us? Unbelievable!
But it sounds like you have your ducks in a row and got a good handle on things.
Really proud of what you’re doing and the courage you are showing.
You go girl!
March, your ‘I hope they both drown’ comment made bust out laughing!!!
Nap and Liza, I also hear liquid dish soap won’t kill ya but if its mixed with food, ya better bring a book cuz it causes lots of toilet time.
God Heidi, what a fucking drama king.
I’d blackmail his ass in a New York minute.
I hope too that you pound his ass by getting a good settlement.Heidi- oh, yeah, seen the “poor me, I’m such a victim” in public/for show thing so many times. It absolutely is all about them feeling sorry for themselves and wanting sympathy, true narc-style.
Most of us would be horrified to act that way in public.
And then in true narc-style, he is entitled to your money.
Take all you can get from him, Heidi. And don’t feel bad about it at all. It’s your turn to get entitled.
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