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I got this email this morning:
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I regret to inform you that due to termination of housing allowance support from my employer I am no longer able to meet my rent obligation. I need to offset the cost in order to maintain a residence. I will provide you $300 less per paycheck. This will remain an automatic deposit.
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I replied:
You are aware that this will place you in breach of contract of the Separation Agreement you signed on April 22, 2013 by $650 a month. I will forward this to my attorney for recommendations.
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One month after the divorce, and already he is screwing with the separation amounts. He knows what hell I had trying to get child support out of the children’s father, and he’s counting on it being just as hard to get the support out of him.
Can’t we just kill them all?
So, if I get the part-time jobs, I’ll just about cover the difference, and we were not making ends meet as it was.
Sigh
He is a master manipulator.
I want you become a successful artist (painter, writers, actress, whatever) so what he does or doesn’t do won’t matter.
That’s my dream for you anway.Dear Karma:
It is SJ’s turn to publically shit himself. Please make it happen. And let there be a video. On YouTube. Thank you.The Sisters in the ‘Hood
I am so sorry Lynng2. This is a huge blow. He breached his contract, and will have to pay even if he has to get another job. I think since he is showing no faith, you can ask the court to garnish his wages. He has to pay the amount he agreed to. He is legally bound to honor his obligation, no matter what he has to do to get it done.
Living in a big box at the local park seems reasonable, don’t you think??
I wish it was that easy. It’s not court ordered alimony that can be garnished. We set it up that way because court ordered alimony can be reduced if he intentionally changed or lost his job to escape it.
So, legally the amount or timing of the payments cannot be changed. But… of course SJ is above the law, right?!?!? Like anyone who can spend 10K on whores in six months WHILE IN MARRIAGE COUNSELING and dating another woman exclusively who has NO CLUE what’s happeneing (i.e., me), he just does what he wants and thumbs his nose at the law or contracts or marriage vows or whatever. His standard tactic when faced with consequences: Make them come after him, and then drag his ass doing what he’s ordered to do in THAT hearing. He missed jailtime by 6 hours in making one payment that was four months late just before the banks closed, while in contempt, to his first wife. Hell, that’s because I was his wife then, and I didn’t know the mess I was in and didn’t want him to go to jail and lose his job and us all be homeless. Nobody who cares about him is there, now, to kick his ass into doing what the courts ordered, so I know he’s going to be a sickening drag on me til I get a job.
I will have to enforce a breach of contract five states away, and that’s not easy, or cheap, takes time, and they can give him an extension to pay of up to 90 days. He knows this, he’s done it before. I knew, too, that he would do everything legal and illegal to avoid paying once the divorce was final and he saw that he wasn’t going to “win me back” by his fake recovery efforts. I was just banking on being able to find a damn J-O-B by now. Actually, I didn’t start the proceedings until I HAD a job, then they decided I needed another year’s experience before they’d actually put me on the floor with patients. Freak!!!! Never in my life have I had better qualifications, and never have I ever had trouble finding a job. Looking eighteen months now. Applying at convenience stores today.
If I had as little regard for the law and other people, I’d have had him snuffed out while we were still married, and taken the life insurance money. That would have been less risky than where we are at now. At least I don’t have to actually look at him, or live with him, but he’s not done screwing me over even now.
You know what, fine, less of his crappy ass filthy control money in my family’s life. My new claim to the universe is:
“There is no end to the blessings we can and will enjoy. Our help will come from a loving, soul nourishing, blessing source and will create peace and abundance for everyone that it touches. Aho and Amen.”
Kiss my ass, Grinch. Your sleigh ain’t big enough for this party.
Keeping my fingers crossed that you can at least get a seasonal job. I know lots of stores need extra help during the holidays. Also have you registered with a temp agency? I stuffed envelopes for Scholastic Books for a week once through a temp agency and answered phones at another office. I know several people that got permanent work after temping some where. I have NO office skills, except that I speak well and can follow directions, and they still found jobs for me to do. Between temping, cleaning houses and babysitting, I kept the 6 of us afloat when my h was downsized. Just some other ideas. Something will click soon. Hang in there!
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