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After reading how many of you find yoga to be very helpful, I went to a yoga class for the first time today. Most of the ladies looked like they do yoga twice a day, 7 days a week, and probably didn’t weigh more than 120lbs. I was already intimidated before class had even begun. As we were part way through class, I looked at myself in the mirror and had the negative tape that normally circulates in my head begin to play. And then I thought, stop that! You are all that you have, and you are great! It was a really weird and wonderful moment for me. I found my mind able to turn off all of the usual noise while I focused on holding painful poses for many minutes at a time. I think I may be hooked….
Good for you Ali! I’ve never tried yoga ~ I’m not very coordinated or flexible, worse since arthritis has set in, but I’ve often thought I should at least give it a try since like you, I’ve heard good things about it. And stopping the negative tape – that’s a real victory!
Hugs,
DaisyAli, NAMASTE! NAMASTE. Wait till it clears out your head and you can’t think a single thought because you are so at peace with your connection to the world.
Fantastic. This is great. I just restarted my yoga practice back up and it feels incredible. Lots of tears for me the first week. I will just keep going back and I know each day will be more clear and peaceful than the last one.
Yoga is one of the main things that got me focused on myself instead of the crap falling around me. Glad you are enjoying it!
Love yoga.
Unfortunately, I don’t have energy for it when my weight is too low. Working on that.
Your post made me miss it. I do it at home, not in a class, so I’ve never had to worry about other people seeing me. Is it distracting to have other people in the same room? Or does that just make you focus harder?
I am trying to get the courage to back to the gym. I can’t get it out of my head that I am doing it to look better for him!! It’s making me nuts. I always went to the gym. I always walked and stretched and exercised and …well shit…Now, every time I try to do something for me, I get this shouting in my head that I am doing it to be attractive to him.
Yes, they do. I hate to look good now in case he thinks it’s for him. How nutty is that? So, I wear my yoga pants and a ratty sweatshirt, no make up and hair in a pony….Nice.
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Bev, I’ve had the opposite reaction. I dress so nicely. Spend time on my hair and make-up everyday. Tons of self-care. Tons. And, I know for sure I’m not doing it for him whatsoever. I’m doing all of this for myself. I feel beautiful and sexy completely for myself. It’s a wonderful feeling. When I bought my new wardrobe, I didn’t think of him at all. It was all for me. Things I knew he didn’t like, but that I did like, I finally bought them and wear them proudly. Dress to the nines, it will make you feel good. Let him know you want neither compliments or criticism because it’s not for him, it’s for you.
Teri, I don’t know what it feels like to have my weight be too low for anything! I only know that I’ve always envied the women that look “naturally” thin.
I think that the epiphany for me yesterday was that I was doing the yoga for ME. Me, me, me. For me to feel better. Not to look better for anyone. Just to feel better. And I did!
Bev, is there something you loved to wear but you stopped because HE didn’t like it? Maybe rediscover things you gave up, whether that’s colors or fabrics or styles. Maybe if you start there, you will feel good about taking the step and then just starting dressing and exercising for you.
My verse, “Arise, shine . . . ” keeps coming back. The aftermath of SA, the living with an SA, is such a dark place, a place of mourning where caring for ourselves seems so foreign.
So here’s my challenge to all of you. Arise and shine today! In some small way. . . I think I am going to post that in a separate thread. I challenge all of us to do one thing for ourselves today that helps us shine.
Gary Kraftsow has put out really good videos on yoga for anxiety and yoga for depression. I got a trainer and started weight training after I found out about the prostitutes and porn. Being stronger physically has made me stronger emotionally. I don’t remember if I did it for him or me, probably both, but the end result was that it was good for me. And it probably cost less than all the hookers and porn, and spending his money made me happy.
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