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JoAnn, since your life seems to be so uneventful these days and you clearly need something to do with your time (I hope my sarcasm shows through when I type), I thought I’d take this opportunity to express a frustration I have with the site. I wish that when I post something I would get alerted, either through email like on the married site, or with a notification right on the sos site, telling me when someone responds to my post. And I wish I would I could be notified anytime someone posts in a thread that I had posted in. Something tells me that this may not be something you haven’t already though of. But sometimes I miss when someone responds to me. Or I have to go searching different threads bc I want to see if anyone responded to something I said, but I can’t even remember where I said it! Is that possible? Am I unaware of that feature already being here? I know you have struggled and fought with this site so much already and you have done a marvelous job. Please don’t let me stress you out. You are awesome, JoAnn!
You’re right about one thing for sure – JoAnn doesn’t have time or energy to address the suggestion box today (or even tomorrow).
Like Facebook, I see your point of notifications being helpful, however, many of the things I have cherished, learned, and enjoyed from the site have actually came from the posts and comments from others about anything and everything! Sure, I’m interested in what someone has to say about something I posted (and fortunately for me, I remember whose topic I posted it in, but then, I’ve had quite alot of months on here to practice!) but the real surprise is reading and learning and sometimes experiencing through others. It’s easy to fall behind, especially if I miss a day or two – but I always take the time to catch up! Not only will I eventually get to read what sisters have posted on MY thoughts, but I am able to take in their thoughts and trials and tribulations along the way. A journey I wouldn’t miss for the world!! There hasn’t been a topic or a post yet that I could have just as soon done without!!
You are right SL. I wish I had more time to peruse the site and read everything everyone posts. I don’t think I would ever be able to work or see my family though! But still, maybe I should be focusing more on what I can learn than what I can offer. I can tell you I have already learned quite a bit from this site, even if I haven’t expressed it. And I probably should have waited to bring my little suggestion up until later. Really, it was just a passing thought, not a big deal. I think JoAnn will understand that. I had absolutely no expectations of anything being done about it anytime soon, that’s for sure. I have just trained my ADD mind that if I don’t say something or do something the second I think of it, it will probably slip my mind. But enough excuses. The post could have waited. Thanks for pointing those things out to me, SL.
Ella,
One suggestion for now: when I was learning how to navigate the site, I discovered the easiest way was to click on “forums.” (I think when I first started, I was clicking on “groups” but then I got the hang of it). That way, I can scroll down through posts for each topic pretty quickly, and see if there’s something I want to respond back to on. For me, the concept of “tagging” or “notifications” on here hasn’t really been an issue.Ella,
You just made me realize something and it’s something I
Should be grateful for and haven’t really thought of this way until NOW.
Since my D day in January of this year, I have all but shut down in many ways… I did recognize immediately that I needed my family doctor on board, that I needed to find a CSAT “stat”, I was going to need a support group to learn and cope (yay for googling and turning up MTASA!), and most importantly, I was going to need some “me” time and most definitely some down time. Now, I admit, I may have taken the DOWN time to extremes, but still…..
I decided that I wasn’t much up for social gatherings, anything requiring too much of my brain power, and even the physical aspects of day to day living seemed monumental!Soooo…. I have been fortunate in the fact that since I am in between jobs (I have a silly part time job right now that doesn’t really count) I have actually
Had more time than most to not only read up on the site daily, but also extra time to just….”be”. I have taken a few months to absorb my reality and psyche myself up for all the hard work and sadness that a divorce demands. My people (friends, family, therapist, SOS sisters, even my SA) have been so patient and understanding about my need for down time and reflection. I feel it has made me stronger and better prepared for my future. With my only
Child away at college, I am not busy doing the “Mom” thing except our late night phone calls! 🙂 I am lucky that with my lack of responsibilities at this time, I am able to pop on here whenever I want and stay caught up! This site has been a true life line for me and I can NOT imagine where I would be now or what my life would be like without these familiar ladies who are my sisters!To you, Ella, and all you sisters that have productive, hectic jobs, and then kids to raise and take care of, and all the other demands that life hands out, I am impressed with the time you take to read AND post! Just knowing you’re out there is comforting to ME!!!
Down time is awesome, SL! I so value mine, when I get it. Before I started my private practice I quit my job at the agency I was working at, absolute hell hole. I enjoyed my time while I was unemployed and it was so nice. I didn’t even feel guilty. I did a little volunteer work, some PTA stuff, cleaned a little, went to therapy, and slept A LOT. Sure we were barely paying the bills, in fact we weren’t paying some of them at all (don’t have the best credit, lol), but I was taking care of myself and it made me a better, healthier person. So enjoy your down time!
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