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The contrast is so stark here.
In comparison to SAs who hide in the dark, we who are their partners, are reaching out to eachother relentlessly working to reclaim our light and hope. In a world where the molecular and chemical structure of everything is based upon the simple fact that opposites attract, I can see how the lost and faithless SAs were drawn to these SOS angels.
Can you imagine how courageous it would seem to them, to honestly share these deeply intimate struggles, in faith that they are heard with nonjudgemental concern? To speak with understanding that we are not arming others with knowledge of vulnerabilities to be exploited, but with truths to understand and build with? What SA could fathom that?
I hope you all recognize the selfless generousity we experience, sharing your lessons learned on the ground in wartime. We reach out to help heal wounds we recognize from experience. We know the places to be soft, the places to be firm.
Thanks to you all, and especially JoAnn. Being back now, I am so grateful for the input of every sister here.
I love you all. I have never seen/heard a better bunch of women….
SA`s cannot do this ( what we do)… they have no soul.
I love what SOS has brought to my life. God lead me here last yr.
That’s all I know, besides how great y’all are!
Sometimes I think I’m done here. And then I realize I’m not.
It is so encouraging in my own life to see the hard won growth, the new life and courage, the resilience of everyone here.
It’s great to have you here, again, Lynn, and to be with you in this next stage. It had been such a tortuous path and you were so exposed in your pain. Now, there is light.
Yes, we should pat each other on the back, not because we always get it right, but because we don’t run away from our lives, we dare to ask, to share, to challenge, to hope, to debate, and to say fuck when it’s the only word that works.beautiful Post Lynn,,thank you for your great insight
you are right, it is an amazing group of women, I think that the SA are not only drwan to those women but they intentionally chose us,,,they pick and choose the best of the best, look around here you see amazing women with great intelligence and beautiful souls, so there is something in common among the partners of SAs, they are all exceptional women
and I think they do that on purpose, my therapist told me when i told her how I regret my choice of him and how mad I am to not be more insightful into his shit, she told me that I had no chance of doing so, he is a master and he was determined to get me no matter what,,,You know, I downloaded one of the books recommended here “The Sociopath Next Door” by Dr. Stout. and I was not terrified by the socipathic traits or whatever. I mean yes, I was, but I also ended up feeling so sorry for them. What a dreadrful scenery of one’s soul!!! Never to experience love, despair, or the bittersweet in between??!!
I now know my SAH is not a sociopath but I also know some other people who have come to my life who are. And how PD and sociopathy are such a fine line. I also was able to realize why I am in so much pain. Why some people feel pain so much stronger than others. Why guilt is sometimes a real life saver for some people. ( I am actually relieved now that my SAH is Catholic because if he never had anybody to teach him guilt… he really would be a sociopath!!)
And I look at us women, I do believe it is the curse and the gift of us women to feel love and pain, and to do it in the same fucking sentence while we are laughing until tears run down our faces! Without this richness, the palette of emotion, there would be no human life!! No more babies would survive. No more children would learn the limits of our love. They would never be able to explore the twilight of crazy, if we weren’t so willing to love them no matter what. They know exactly how far they can go, which buttons to push. They know where love turns to resentment. And our poor husbands, who had no mothers, now explore the path from resentment to hate.
And it is all because of the grace of our love. The mercy. The ability to love and accept no matter what.
Thank you girls… Nobody on this site is perfect, but you’re the fucking best!!! 😉
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