The Drama of it All

Steve and I were just having a conversation regarding an SA and the drama that incurs in an attempt to provide a smoke screen and avoid the topic at hand. He agree’s that this has been part of his behavior-pushing my buttons to the endth degree, (and he does it very well) and then WOW, we don’t have to get at the meat of the discussion. Besides the yelling at me, after getting me to go “ape shit,”
he will walk away and go in the other room to isolate – thus leaving me ready to knock his head off his shoulders.
We both agree that the drama from both of us creates more conflict.
It is very difficult for me to calmly say to him, “You are trying to create drama here, and I am not going to allow you to do that.” Of course him creating the drama in the first place is his issue, but how Ideal with it is mine.
I am really working on not letting him have the conrol over me he he so wants and needs with this behavior.

I told him that drama is a way of life for him because he has always created it to avoid dealing with the issues of his addiction. He agreed. I also told him that I get sucked into his drama and go over the edge because I grew up in a home with nothing but trauma, and by GOD he isn’t going to yell and scream at me and get away with it.