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  • January 14, 2012 at 11:50 pm #4245
    sharron
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    I remember I brought this up, a year or so ago, how to tell if your SA is lying. For those of you who are unable to tell, try this out. It works 99% of the time for me. Am not sure what makes it accurate – just know it is a neurological response. A psychiatrist colleague of mine told me about it.
    Ask a yes or no question and watch the right eye dilate if the person is lying. Whenever my SAH is lying, his right eye always dilates. When it is a whopper, it looks like it is going to blow out. Ha! Check it out – it actually works.

    January 16, 2012 at 3:14 am #26702
    lila
    Participant

    Wow. I am going to watch for that. I watch for all kinds of things, respiration rate, blood vessels in the neck, shallow breathing…I’ll add this…Thank you.
    Lila

    January 16, 2012 at 4:40 am #26703
    kmf
    Member

    Dear Sharron,
    Good technique but I don’t need it. If his mouth is moving I know he is lying. 😉

    January 16, 2012 at 6:02 am #26704
    silver-lining
    Participant

    Exactly, Karen!! I was just gonna post something similar!!!! 🙂

    January 16, 2012 at 6:58 pm #26705
    nap
    Participant

    Sharron,
    I tried it in the mirror and it didn’t work?

    January 16, 2012 at 7:30 pm #26706
    joann
    Participant

    Larry lost his right eye in the Air Force. So, I use Karen’s method.

    January 16, 2012 at 7:40 pm #26707
    hurtheart
    Participant

    My SA lies 24/7 about everything..down to what he ate for breakfast. I’m guessing his eye is stuck in the dilated position…

    January 16, 2012 at 7:54 pm #26708
    joann
    Participant

    Here’s an interesting piece on this subject:

    http://www.spring.org.uk/2007/05/detecting-lies-top-3-myths-top-5-proven.php

    January 16, 2012 at 8:05 pm #26709
    zumbagirl
    Member

    Karen, LOL!! Foolproof!

    January 16, 2012 at 8:06 pm #26710
    nap
    Participant

    What if their crossed eyed?

    January 16, 2012 at 8:08 pm #26711
    zumbagirl
    Member

    p.s., I only wish this method were that simple, Sharron. I’ve never seen any of this with my SA. In fact, I’ve never seen any of the signs JoAnn’s article refers to–all the ones I thought I’d see if my h had been lying–eyes shifting, vocal changes etc. I’m guessing physiological changes are far more easy to detect in someone who doesn’t lie very frequently.

    January 16, 2012 at 8:09 pm #26712
    ksondy
    Participant

    I think I’ll take the retirement funds and buy a professiinal grade voice stress analysis machine. keep it on all the time.

    January 16, 2012 at 8:43 pm #26713
    hadj608
    Participant

    When ever my husband starts to say “part of” – part of the reason I did that was……

    Here’s the link to a book I am reading. Pretty facinating.
    http://liespotting.com/2010/09/liespotting-and-the-current-deception-epidemic/

    January 16, 2012 at 11:32 pm #26714
    sharron
    Participant

    Hi All – my therapist validated, today, the theory of eye dilation with lying. He has read many studies on the subject and believes in it.
    Of course, there are many other ways to tell – body language, pitch of voice, facial expressions, etc.

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