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So I started asking my attorneys back in October to work out the holiday visitation schedule- Tgiving and Xmas. They contacted OC (opposing council) and heard nothing back until just before Tgiving. My attorneys got with me about a proposal, sent it to OC, and then nothing back. I didn’t know the day before Tgiving if there had been any decision. I heard nothing from dr e. We had a usual Saturday visitation.
Cut to today. dr e sent an email saying I had withheld Bat on Thanksgiving so he gets him for Xmas. As you all remember, I was forced to take my kids hours away and spend the 4 days before Xmas in a hotel so Bat could spend (part of) those days with dad, who had planned to go out of town. We flew home on the last flight Xmas eve and we were all emotionally and physically exhausted on Xmas.
I am just sick. It never never ends with this ahole.
Teri, time to just say NO FUCKING MORE. Let that motherfucker take you to court. “Right has might” and you.are.right.
I know, Liza. Of course that’s what I thought with the 30-plus counts of violations that I had evidence showing that every single one was bogus. And that didn’t get me anywhere.
We’ll what the attorneys have to say. At least I will see how my new attorneys handle the bullshit.
I’m just so fucking tired of the drama and not having any control over my life… He is such a fucking dick asshole jerkwad prickhead fuckface shitstain pudwhacker. I have no idea how I even married him in the first place.
God, I wish I could tell you all the details from the psych eval. He is still such a lying sack of shit. And more new disclosures. But mostly lies- unfuckingbelievable. Just unbelievable. I hate hate hate hate him.
What Liza said. Hopefully your new lawyer will help you out of this one. Why am I not surprised doc e did this? I would have been more surprised if he didn’t! I can’t agree more. I hate,hate,hate him!!!!!!!!
One nice thing about the hotel is I had a week long emotional affair with a nice man and his dog who was in a room at the end of the hall. He invited me out for ice cream and we would watch TV in his room and make cocktails. I had hysteria back then (inappropriate laughter ect) I think he thought I was fun but a little off and I was. It was nice then he checked out one day and went back to wherever he was from. I really liked his dog he was adorable!!! (and his dog liked me). TMI sorry. :/
Hardly know what to say. Your lawyers can’t possibly let him get away with all this. He is torturing you and continuing to hijack your life. It should not continue.
Interesting new plot twist- the email he sent to Bat’s therapist about my withholding Bat on Tgiving he did NOT also send to me. I don’t know if that was a goof, but I think more likely he is trying to plot behind my back. Nothing new there. He is such a snake. Bat’s therapist is not at all happy about what transpired on Saturday. I am so thankful Bat has her.
Tell your lawyers NO on Xmas. Doc e did last year. You did not deny him thanksgiving and you can prove that you didn’t.
Let him drag you into court. Just tell them no.
Bev, it would feel good to stand up to him (of course, if I won).
On a more positive note- Bat took his first college final yesterday and was done half an hour before anyone else. His professor pulled him aside to talk about good colleges for him.
I spoke with the robotics advisor about Saturday, and he was incredibly understanding and will be looking out for Bat trying to make robotics a safe place for him.
And Bat’s PSAT scores are in (remember how it took attorneys and therapist getting involved so that Bat could reschedule visitation so he could even take his PSATs and also not have dr. e drive him?). Bat should qualify as a National Merit Semifinalist, but we won’t know for sure until September (there’s an application and SAT required if they want a chance to be selected as a Finalist). He did really well in spite of all this shit (although he is disappointed in himself; he’s a perfectionist- we are working on that).
Holding on to the good. There are many good people helping us move Bat along. It’s just really sad his dad isn’t one of them.
Ok, the 411 is that the email was sent to the psych and custody evaluator. Why would he be still sending him emails after the report is out? And bogus crap at that. I seriously cannot tell you how many lies he has told that man. I guess he thinks he has snowed him this far, might as well keep going?
I truly believe with all my heart that doc e is a sociopath.
I know, I know, I know they alla re but he I’d different. He is smarter and has more money than most of them and he is determined to “win” at all costs.
I just watched the Ted Talk that Chump Lady posted about domestic violence and the whole time she described the abuser, I thought of doc e.
No, he never held a gun to anyone’s head ( that we know of) but he is a sadistic maniac.
In the Ted Talk the woman mentions briefly about ..”family court judges granting visitation to the men who beat their mother…” etc..
It’s the same thing except doc e didn’t “punch” you ( in the literal sense.
This won’t help Teri but I believe that the family court judges are the problem. Maybe they are over burdened. Maybe they heard so much “he said/she said” that they become deaf. Maybe they just don’t give a shit…. Idk.
I do know that it’s wrong and I have no idea what to do about it.
Judges are fully to blame. Period! In these divorce cases the judges hold court so they should have a check in so to speak, look over the case thus far, have a mini conf with both parties’ atty’s, on the cases that are taking too long. To find out how to expedite things.
Such bullshit!!!
NO, no, no, no he can’t have Bat Jr at Christmas, just no. If there is any power at all in intention, sisterhood, put the intention out there that drE is not able to pull this off.
It’s just discussion between him and whoever, now, right? Not an order. The proof of Thanksgiving’s fiasco and all the exhaustive travel for last Christmas is readily available. I can’t even imagine how he’d get Christmas again, this year. Putting a full intention refusal and close the door on drE into the atmosphere.
He needs to have an accident, soon.
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