Update of the SA group.

I went to the intake meeting and met the counselor that leads the group. She is a very nice woman that has gone through the jungle of being a spouse of an SA. Her story was sad of course and what made it even more tragic is her story began 15 years ago. Back then, there was very little information available and even less support for the spouse. She tried to talk with professionals about it and even her minister, but no one really could identify with her. She counsels people who have trauma issues and was asked about a year ago to work with spouse’s of sex addicts. She had some special training surrounding sex addiction which re-opened some old wounds that she had left over from her experience. She even cried during our meeting regarding some things that have come up in her life surrounding her SA exposure years earlier. She did not know if she would have the strength to be the group leader because she realized how raw these old wounds still were. We both talked for a long time and she was kind enough to tell me that meeting me has given her a fresh look at everything and has renewed her strength about leading the group. (Good Lord, what did I say or do!!) hee hee hee

Anyway, she asked me to join the group and that it starts the next evening. So I drove back last night nervously looking forward to meeting everyone. As it turns out, she had the room all set. She had cheese and crackers, chocolate, coffee and what looked to be like a box of activities for us to participate in. She and I were looking around wondering where everyone else was. She went downstairs to the desk and realized that she had the wrong date. AAARRGGGHHHH!!!!! She apologized and asked me to please come back next Tuesday.

So there you have it. I will let you know what happens after Tuesday’s meeting.

I do know that she use’s the book “Mending a shattered heart” by Stefanie Carnes. There is a workbook associated with that book. Are any of you familiar with it? Evidently that will be the guide for the group.