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What exactly is going on here? There is so much that I want/need to vent about, but now I’m holding back. I do not get a lot of internet time so I missed whatever happened. I briefly looked through some of the posts and tried to gander what went down. Did we have a SA on this board? Were our personal stories being discussed elsewhere without our knowledge? I hate to re-open what seems to be a very sensitive issue but I am holding back a lot of sorrow I had wanted to share with my sisters, and need to know exactly what happened before I choose to do so. If you don’t want to tell me on this post, please email me and let me know..
Thanks!Hi Hurtheart,
I will address your post right here, right out in the open, because that is what this site is all about.
Here it is in a nutshell. (Sorry, if anyone disagrees, let’s not start another war over it, it’s over and done).
We had a counselor Sister, her name is Ella, she is married to a Sex Addict. She had posted frequently on the married site and had corresponded with me quite a bit. I felt that her insight and professional input would add to this site so I offered her free membership.
As it turned out she used the access she had to membership SOS e-mail and Private Messaging to solicit business for her expensive weekend intensives. She also put up a link to her husband’s blog and promoted it as ‘Ask An Addict’.
Lexie took offense at his blog and wrote a scathing comment to his blog, which was never published by him, but which Ella determined was written by someone on this site.
I wrote to Ella, telling here that solicitations for her business were not appropriate. She got angry, I said that I was rescinding my offer of a free membership and deactivated her account–and went on vacation.
Three days later (while still on vacation) I saw that Ella was still on the site making extremely derogatory remarks and literally stirring the pot of emotions and dividing our Sisters.
It was my fault that she still had access to the site because I did not realize the complete procedure necessary to manually remove a member.
She is no longer a member, but some Sisters disagree with how it was handled. I cannot do anything about that.
So, as for your concerns. No, there never was a SA on this site, and no, our security was never breached. As far as I can determine no information from this site was ever shared inappropriately.
We are, and always have been, a completely closed, secure site where we can feel safe about sharing our deepest thoughts, fears, stories and comments.
It was an unfortunate incident, but, as with all of life’s ventures, sometimes shit happens. It was dealt with in a professional manner and it’s over and done.
So, share away my dear. We are all here for you.
Much love to you,
JoAnn
Wonderful. Is that the Ella in Houston? I live in Spring, Tx and I contacted her for help. She said her classes were full but she could work with me individually. I was wondering why it was $50.00 a week for a support group. Damn, can anyone be trusted bc I’m feeling really shitty now and dont know where to turn. If I’m only thinking of myself, its bc I live with an SA that only thinks about himself. Sorry hurtheart, I’m right in there with you right now and I dont know where to turn.
Yep, Ella, in Houston. There ARE some fantastic counselors, Jan. I think what we may be learning, from this experience, is that counselors who are also married to so-called “recovering” (or in this case, CURED– eye’s rolling) sex addicts, and running 3-day intensives and soliciting vulnerable women on a support site such as this, are not a safe bet. Can we say, conflict of interest? The groups are “full”, but she can see you privately, for what??? triple the fee? wonderful, is right!
But, alas, she’s gone… Thank God!
I can’t afford that right now with the consideration of going home and leaving this man. I really wondered if she was the “E” everyone spoke of when I first joined. I dont think AA charges for support groups do they? Yes, they’re all recovered arent they! Thanks for posting back Lexi.
Hi Jan,
No AA does not charge for support groups. And there are many support groups online if you wish to join, like cosa and coslaa, free of charge. They do online meetings, telephone meetings. Really the support if you live in remote location there is an option for you …for free.
Not to mention, books are free as well.Love,
Flora
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