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November 4, 2011 at 1:02 pm #3903joannParticipant
Let’s open our arms and our hearts to our newest member, laurenbutterfly. Here’s what she wrote in her profile:
On June 6, 2011, I discovered (the worst way through a returned letter) that my husband cheated on me with my best friend about eight years ago. She lives in a different country where I was raised. Far worse has been learning that they kept in touch by e-mail, phone and skype for all these years and that he went to visit her in January, 2010. In February I discovered his extensive Cybersex activity including posting my nude photograph on-line. Recently he has admitted massage parlor activity, various kinds of acting out with past girlfriends and friends etc. All things considered I am doing pretty well now thanks to therapeutic support, friends, one family member and an extremely helpful outpatient intensive at the Institute of Sexual Health in L.A. Still I welcome more support and exchange of information.
Laurenbutterfly also wrote this update:
I am about to travel to L.A. to participate in a formal, clinical disclosure with polygraph at the Institute of Sexual Health where I greatly benefited from a four day partners intensive. Before the intensive I was mired in depression and misery. After the intensive, the depression pretty much went away and the misery was greatly reduced.
I know that I am interested in how these intensives work, and the discussion of disclosures is a hot topic here, so I anticipate some great comments here.
Welcome laurenbutterfly. If there is anything I can help you with please don’t hesitate to ask.
Love and hugs ~ JoAnn
November 4, 2011 at 2:00 pm #21699dianeParticipantHi Laurenbutterfly,
thank you for joining this company of women, and I look forward to hearing about your time in LA, and how it unfolds.
We will do our best to support you.
D.November 4, 2011 at 5:55 pm #21700lexieParticipantWelcome Lauren… Glad that you found us and that you are feeling better due to support and an intensive. I too, will look forward to hearing about your experience.
My best,
Laurel
November 4, 2011 at 10:06 pm #21701shakennotbrokenParticipantHi laurenbutterfly and welcome! It is wonderful that you left the intensive feeling better – I hope that you get better and better. We are here for ya!
~ Shaken
November 4, 2011 at 10:28 pm #21702napParticipantHi Laurenbutterfly,
Welcome and please post if you’d like. We learn from each other and support each other. I too am interested in your intensive and how it goes for you. Sounds like the first one was very helpful.
Love, NapNovember 5, 2011 at 3:11 am #21703dazed-and-confusedParticipantHi Laurenbutterfly, glad you found us not glad why you had to find us.
{{hugs}} JacNovember 5, 2011 at 5:13 pm #21704laurenbutterflyParticipantThank you new friends for your comments, much appreciated. I will gladly share information about the disclosure. I will be flying to L.A. tomorrow. It starts on Monday morning. One of therapists (who I met in August) has contacted me and we reviewed the (long) list of questions that I expect to be addressed by my husband in his disclosure. We also talked about support for me during the process. I am very fortunate to be able to stay with one of the women that I met at the Partners Intensive in August. I have three more soul sisters from that experience. I felt completely safe at ISH in August and know I will feel the same way again. The clinical staff are very caring, experienced and supportive. As a therapist myself I recognize superior work when I see it. Love and strength to us all. Laurenbutterfly
November 6, 2011 at 7:02 am #21705kmfMemberHello Laurenbutterfly and a BIG welcome to you. I am glad you are doing well given the terrible circumstances that bring you here. I will also be very interested in hearing about your next experience in LA and I am glad you will have familiar support for your disclosure. Karen xx
November 6, 2011 at 3:26 pm #21706zumbagirlMemberWelcome, Laurenbutterfly! I’m so sorry for your pain and trauma. I’m so very glad for the support you are getting, esp. in the next few days!! Best wishes and keep us posted.
Love Julie
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