Welcome To Our New Sister, Julie

Welcome Julie,
I hope you find the support, insight, and good humour that can help you put your life back together.
Always lots going on here…
much light for your journey,
Diane.

Dear Julie,
A very warm welcome! I hope you will find comfort and support here as well as some very badly needed laughs at the absurdity of it all. Karen xx

Welcome Julie
so sorry you found yourself here. You will find lots of love and support, we have all been through the unbelievable. I call this my little cafe hell, where I can step out of the heat for a bit and try to make sense of the impossible. Don’t be afraid to jump in, share or ask questions. It helps a lot.
Heidi

Thank you for your words and your courage and your honesty in all this mess. Here is a little bit about me….On February 4th, 2011 a personal nuclear explosion detonated in my world. I found out that my husband of 16 years and best friend of 21 years had engaged in a series of sexual and fantasy encounters, affairs, and countless hours with prostitutes and pornography dating back the entire length of our time together. I discovered a conscious and continual betrayal by my best friend, husband and father of our two children. As the lies and secret relationships came to light, a proverbial trap door opened. Suddenly I was Alice- down the rabbit hole (without the caricatures, pocket watch or the realization at the end that it was all a dream). So much for fairytales….

Down I fell. My world was suddenly completely different – gone was my best friend, my world as I thought it existed and any hope of financial stability as well as my understanding of what the future held for both me and our children. It now seems both a lifetime away and is still so new that the raw emotions occasionally catch me off guard in quiet moments -making me sometimes calm and other moments sob with overwhelming grief. Time alternates between slow motion flip frame (mostly in the middle of the night) and weeks that seem to blend together. So amidst the ashes, I am building from ground up. I would like to have a life with relationships that honor values and goodness- a balanced life. I am learning that I don’t need to accept abuse or excuses. I am worthy. I hope that maybe sharing my experiences may help me to make sense of what has and is happening, will help others learn (and find laughter in the rediculousness of this insanity) and enable me to slow down and get myself out of this overwhelmingly bad situation. I would like to learn to trust the right people, trust myself and ultimately to find my joy again.

Julie – I’m so glad that you are here – your clarity and experience have helped me crawl off the ledge so many times. I’m sure that you will help many here (and hopefully get some pearls as well). You are months ahead of me, sister, but I really look forward to being on the shores of Lake Tahoe on our patio someday with the kids. I just have to figure out how to get myself out of this mess. (btw, my phone died again – hope your salon day was relaxing).

After taking a much deserved nap, I’m going to the gym to hit my “reset” button.

Deb