Welcome To Our New Sister,Ginger

Hi Ginger, and welcome to SOS. Boy did you ever join at an interesting time for our discussions!! We’re on fire these days!
I hope it’s not too much for you all at once. Take it slow, but I know you will find support, similar stories and feelings, information and humour.
I’m sorry you are feeling scared about being alone. I didnt’ have that experience, but i’m sure someone here did/does and can relate. I’d wager a guess that it has to do with PTSD.
lots of light to you,
Diane.

Welcome Ginger. Reading the posts an interaction might seem a little daunting at first. Dealing with a sex addict is very daunting. But here it is a GOOD kind. A lot of us have felt alone in this within our lives. This site provides a relief from that.

I hope we are a good fit for you and that some of these wonderful ladies can help you and suppoort you.
Hugs, Kim

Dear Ginger,

So much pain in that one simple statement. 🙁 I suppose we are ALL afraid of being alone but there is a special kind of loneliness living with this kind of a man? I want to offer you a warm welcome and I hope you will find some comfort here. Karen xx

I just read all of your posts and your kindness made me cry. Thank you for your thoughtfulness. Everything in my life seems to be changing and I don’t know how it will turn out. All I know is two things: I cannot continue the way I was going and the only way I see to change my situation is through the emotional pain. I started reading some of the posts over the weekend and it was more than I could do. And yes I am emotionally exhausted both by my own resurfaced PTSD symptoms and where my husband and I are in relation to the addiction.

Hi Ginger,
Welcome to the Sisterhood. You’ve found a great group of supportive, smart, warm wonderful (and often wacky) women here. We are all at various stages post-discovery, so try not to get overwhelmed by reading too much at once. But anytime you have a question, don’t hesistate to start a forum topic. Ask away!
With love,
Zumbagirl (Julie)

Dear Ginger,
I am so glad you found us and hopefully sometime soon, you will be too! Just take deep breaths and one day at a time. We all understand what you are going through. It is a very complicated situation and it truly helps to find others who have been living the same nightmare. I hate the circumstances, but again, am glad you found us. You will never be alone again. Take comfort in that. We are here for you so feel free to post whenever or ask whatever. There is no shame here. We have no time for that. We are too busy trying to heal and get back to a healthier lifestyle! 🙂

Love,

SL

What is hard right now is that we have both worked very very hard on the relationship over the years and now I don’t know if a new normal can be found. He used to go to SLAA and had a sponsor and then he coasted (his word not mine). Between his ocd, depression, SA addiction/anorexia and my ptsd we have had a sexless marriage for the past 5-6 years. I don’t know how it happened but I woke up one day and realized I had forgotten who I was. I never lost myself…just forgot and ate my feelings (which I am no longer doing). Brutal honesty is tough for me to do but there it is (and yes individual therapy is a life saver…have used it on and off during the marriage). So this is where I am at the moment.

Hi Ginger,
I have missed welcoming some of our new sisters lately, but wanted to say hello to you, and I hope you find a home here with us.
Hugs, Lindy