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This thread makes me laugh. I went to a COSA meeting a couple of times early on, before I founds SOS. The meetings were very structured, if someone cried, the other women weren’t allowed to comfort, because “we want them to feel the emotions”, and most of this small group seemed to be trying to solve everyone in their life’s issues and problems, control everything, grown kids, neighbors, friends in a way that I just couldn’t understand.
What I really liked about it, was in the parking lot afterwards, two petite older women came up to me and told me that they know what real rage is like and they had really wanted to kill their husbands, now they were divorced and could care less whether he lived or died. That thought hadn’t occurred to me yet. I remember thinking that if I wanted to know what they were really thinking, I’d have to hang out in the parking lot:)Great story Courtney. Maybe you should’ve asked them how much they would charge for a hit on your H. 🙂
I am putting together a workbook and some instructional DVD’s for starting a SOS support group in your area.
It’s on my very long list, so be patient. ~ JoAnn
I am glad to read the frank language of you all! I was deeply damaged by the codependent language for years. I continue to see (and be shocked by) how quickly and happily most professionals would like to label, marginalize, pathologize and minimize us. I was gaslighted for years, and am now so traumatized I don’t know how to heal. Treatment at ISH has helped and I have a great therapist. Impact so bad it will take years. Thanks for being here. I will be a strong advocate for truth.
This thread made me laugh but also makes me feel so sorry for those women! Oh my god how horrendous to take on the blame for someone elses actions. It does sound like rather than helping codependent people groups like that create them! And Im sure the narcissistic asshole husbands of those women just eat it up! So sad!! There is no place like SOS that is for sure!
noco, this place is a breath of fresh air after all that codependent nonsense.
And what we have been put through is vulgar and profane, so no wonder our language reflects that.
I never swore before either. I remember after most recent Dday having a hard time saying STBX was a jerk! I am so over that!
I have this fantasy of going to one of those meetings and actually saying ” My mane is bev and my life is shit because I am such a horrible wife and mother and person that I forced my H to screw hookers. I am a waste of space and I don’t deserve to live. ….etc”
bet they would love me 🙂
Love it…
My name is Teri and I forced my STBX to take naked pictures of himself, put them online in BDSM ads, arrange to meet people who responded to his ads at hotels, go to the ATM to get money to pay for the hotels, get a hardon and screw these people. Then I made him take pictures of the sex and put those online. I also made him contact hookers, put ads on swinger sites, and hang out with child molesters. If only I had been nicer about him never being home, I’m sure he would never have done any of it.
Everything goes well with Crown 🙂
They even make a maple syrup flavor ( which I believe is SL’s new fave). Can’t go wrong with that!!
Those zombie/stepford nut cases need some Crown….
HI, my name is Diane and I enabled my ex husband by falling a sleep EVERY SINGLE night so that he could then skulk downstairs to watch porn for a few hours. I am so ashamed of being tired. And I also enabled him in the first years of our marriage by going to Cathedral choir practice EVERY SINGLE Thursday evening so that he could go cruise the east end and watch hookers. How selfish was I to be thinking of my own need to learn my alto part when deep inside I must have known that my 25 yearold gorgeous body, lovely face, with thick naturally auburn hair couldn’t possibly interest him enough to keep him away from prostitutes. I was so self-centred.
Pass the donuts, the vodka, and the flat head shovel.oh, and pass me annblack’s taser, too.
I’m really interested in the taser.
I try to stay open to new technologies.Hi, my name is Tania. I lured my ex in with my three kids, age 8 and under. He couldn’t resist moving to the suburbs and going to PTA. I enabled him further by agreeing to have a fourth child with him, because the very sight of my pregnant body drove him to having cybersex while sticking a vibrator up his anus. He was able to hide this activity and others as his illness escalated because I was too busy raising four kids. working, and getting my books published.
OMG too funny!!!
Hi my name is nap and my Xh fucked over 500 women during my 25 yr marriage. I take responsibility because I only have one vagina. My bad. Now give me a fucking donut!
Honk! LOL at Landshark too. OMG you are the funniest women on the planet. Who knew?! Remember Emily LeTella? “Never mind…”
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