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You know I have an idea.
Maybe we should have a public site for these First Steps. I mean they really do make the point.
Or we should swarm someone’s blog with them.http://blog.pinegrovetreatment.com?
I just read their latest post. Here’s a quote about PTSD…
“Now you know that post-traumatic symptoms aren’t caused by the traumatic event itself, rather, they’re the result of not allowing ourselves to feel and express the leftover emotions associated with the event. Emotions are meant to “run their course and exit” and although they can be disturbing, they can’t hurt you unless you keep them bottled up. When an alarming emotion is sparked, it’s an opportunity to discharge the energy it carries, thus allowing the memory of the event to be stored properly (instead of banging around inside our bodies wreaking havoc). This is a requirement for us to fully heal. So talk about the event and how you experienced it. Cry, shout, shake (yes, let yourself fall apart a little… when you can do it safely, of course)! Although our symptoms generally fade when we do this, it’s okay if you need some professional help. Many counselors are trained to work with this particular issue, and can help you through the process toward a full recovery. “
Barf. We are just keeping our emotions bottled up? Oh, yeah, and who calls us all kinds of names when we let them out- abusive, controlling, angry, out of control, over-reacting…blah blah blah. These fuckers are so damn patronizing.
Honk!
I got a list of thirty two names I’d called my SA when he sent his “agreement” of what he would do for me while we were separated. I did some really out of character things, like smashing computers with meat cleavers. I think I pretty much let those emotions out as they came. I didn’t care who called me a pain-shopping rage driven codependent. If only I could have freeze framed HIM, that might have been enough.
Nah.
Let our emotions out of the bottle? Well here goes…
I’m fucking angry and pissed off and livid that my husband gave no thought to his lovely wife and daughters at home and trolled Back Page to find hookers to pay to have sex with him. And when he met one he particularly “connected” with, he trolled FaceBook to find her and reach out to her to establish a relationship. And by relationship I mean, buy her things like a car and then maybe get sex in return. Oh and if she for some reason doesn’t feel like having sex with you after you buy her the car, go onto Google Chat and IM with your favorite stripper about how unfair that is.
Is that a good start?
Lynn, so how is your PTSD?
Of course, this whole simplistic theory might make sense if we are talking about a one time event that is within the scope of normal human experience. But when this goes on for years…? And when what we discover is horrific? Just cry and shake a little and all will be fine.
Kiss my ass, Pine Grove.
Oh, let me understand, the traumatic event actually has nothing to with my PSTD?
It’s just a disappointment I’m not feeling yet. Oh. I’m all better now, for sure, thanks.And i love the patronizing “now you know…” that they start with. Who are these incompetents?
And yes, FC, that was a very good start. You shoould be all better now, like me.
hi my name is spudkin. i am an enabling codependent enabler because i allowed myself to miss the memo that we were supposed to take mind-reading lessons before hooking up with professional liars. and God grant me the serenity not to eat all your donuts.
Yep, what the assholes did has nothing to do with our PTSD! Spoken like a true SA! Our SA’s are just regurgitating back what they are hearing. It starts at the top.
Well, good grief Diane….we all knew that all along. I cannot believe you were so slow to get it…..
I am so glad those good folks at Pine Grove straightened you out.
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Is laughter with comedy spun here a cure for PTSD? Shit, it cannot hurt.
Spam the 12 stepping blogoshere? I’m in.
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