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Great advice as always, Karen. And Lynn, I know that feeling of paralysis. I still feel it sometimes, but I do understand where you are at and my heart goes out to you.
i just want to reiterate this point, however. Do not discuss his “recovery” with him, or question him, or any of that. I should take my own advice. I guarantee that there are NO answers. If they had the answers, they could not, would not have done what they did in the first place! For me, these types of discussions do nothing but rip open the scab, anew. There is no answer. There is no healing through him, I’m afraid.
he is unrecoverable. he is extremely sick and dangerous.treat him like he’s a visiting friend out on a day pass from the psych ward, but keep your distance.
he will suck you down into his sick vortex, straight into the bowels of hell, if you let him.
Yes, please breathe and rest.
March— I will gladly hold your husband down, while you kick his good for nothing sorry ass.
Love ~ L
“treat him like he’s a visiting friend out on a day pass from the psych ward, but keep your distance.”
LOL, that is it. I will just mentally put a “HALL PASS” on a lanyard around his neck. Perfect!
I know this may sound unbelievable but I never lie to myself about my “thing” at all. I know he’s a disturbed and disgusting individual who has no hope to ever change his ways. I know he’s only a shell of a human being, and the only time he appears to have life in him is when he is A} doing his disgusting things or B} pretending to be “man of the century” in front of others in order to stroke his ego. He has sucked as a friend {he claims to have so many, but in 6 years I’ve never seen one of them, and none of them have met our daughter who is almost 3} he sucks as a husband {obvious reasons} he sucks as a father {again, obvious reasons} he sucks at his job {always getting written up, no raises, no promotions, no anything}. Dude can’t even hammer a nail into a wall. I try so hard to figure out how he duped me into marrying him as I would NEVER EVER EVER in a million years give a guy like this the time of day, let alone marry him. I have to chalk it up to the fact that I had meningitis and encephalitis {bet you he gave it to me}! when I accepted his marriage proposal and I still had it when I married him. I had a bad case and it takes years to recover. Is that a lie I’m telling myself? I don’t think so because my best friend, my sister, and my parents all brought that to my attention and that’s how the lightbulb went off over my head and made me think “oh yea”..cause honestly, I don’t even remember my wedding day. At all. {when I watched the dvd it was if I were watching a movie for the first time}…
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