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I put 2 pounds on over the weekend so I’m going to do a spin class this evening. Please hold me to it!
After some thought, I may try it SED! It’ll cause him some stress no doubt.
Don’t even get me started on GS cookies. 🙂
Cat, I want a full report on that spin class btw.
Finished the spin class FN. It was very scary when the instructor told the class she was going to break us. Wanted to vomit halfway through but pushed on. I feel fantastic now.
Thank you Zola for the inspiration. xoCat, you just gave me my motivation to go get on my bike and go for a ride. I have been sitting at my kitchen table in tears since reading Ali’s trigger thread. Not sure why. But now I am going to go get dressed and get my bike and head out for a ride. Thanks for that!
I walked my dogs with my best friend and that helped a lot. She is coming over every day this week to make sure we get out. She is off work tomorrow and we are going to tackle Costco together ( I am planning after school swim parties for both kids….need lots of snacks and drinks).
I am sick to fucking death of planning my life around this perverted shit.
i’ve definitely been drinking too much. so i stopped drinking so much and flirting so much. now i’m eating more. hmmm.. maybe drinking and flirting is better? it’s definitely more fun!
how to get through this shit without props?
i lost 25 pounds the first month after d day. i’ve gained 15 of that back. wish i could go back to not wanting to eat a thing. at least there was a benefit from the stress..
“I am sick to fucking death of planning my life around this perverted shit.” –Bev
And that’s EXACTLY what we’re doing when we choose to stay. I can’t tell you how much better it feels NOT to.
ABsolutely, March.
It’s like that saying (which I’ve posted before):
“After years of doing her best to make the jail cell a home, one day she tested the door, and found it was open all along”Getting my life back, without his bad energy spread all over it, without his constant “problems” and “moods” and “meetings” and “issues” and “12stepassholes” and hi “emotionally incestuous monster mother” and “lapses” and “recovery” and “counselling” and selfish selfish selfish attitude to me and the boys, has meant being able to live again.
I posted recently on the MTASA site re the 5% (though we know that number is meaningless, anyway): Would you bet all of your material possessions if you had 5% odds of winning? Your house, money, car, property…everything? And how much MORE valuable are our peace of mind, our sanity–our very lives? And what if you’d ALREADY lost everything once and had spent years rebuilding, replenishing…
Diane I love that saying. Who is in charge of making the pillows? We need a quote page to refer back to so these are all in one place.
Oh and as to the original question. I’m not sure he’s ever told the truth. This weekend he was here with the kids. He took them out for a few hours. I asked him how he secured the house. He attacked saying “well since you changed the locks…” I said “i left you with the garage door opener so you could go out that way and close the garage door behind you” He was all apologies and then had to add. “well if it makes you feel better I locked the front door and went out the back sliding glass.” Lies lies lies. He went out the front door. I know he left a door unlocked. He knows. Why would he lie about which one???
Because they lie. It is what they do. It does not matter about what. Mine lied about where he had lunch ( danver’s or wendy’s) . He was alone and doing nothing except eating a f’n hamburger and he lied.
My husband and I had a conversation over the weekend, called to tell me his week with Minwalla starts June 3rd. I can’t remember how the conversation got to this, but he told me “Really, there are no absolute truths.” I looked at him and said “sure there are, they’re called facts.” OMG!
If there are NO absolute truths then there is an absolute truth ( the truth that there is no absolute truth being an absolute truth). He cannot even wax poetic and deep without contradicting himself…..
dumbass …I hate people that say that no absolute truth thing ( pet peeve of mine). You just contradicted your own statement stupid!!
Courtney, your husband made a pretty good point, actually. Truth being relative, I surely do NOT want a sex addict’s. We should be asking for the fucking facts. Every time.
Stronger each day,
Your husband left a door open for two reasons:
1. He wanted to demonstrate he could still make you unsafe.
2. He doesn’t respect your boundaries.Courtney,
Flush him. If we want an intelligent conversation about philosophical questions, a sex addict is not our first choice.Courtney, when your husband said there are no absolute truths was he referring to your marriage or his sa antics?
😉dr. evil did absolutely truthfully take pictures of himself at orgies and email them and post them online, etc.
No absolute truths, my ass.
That sounds like the crap dr. evil used to say. When I caught him in a lie, he would get all indignant and say, “You are denying my reality.” (which is something he picked up in marriage counseling). Damn straight I will deny your reality when your reality is a fucking delusion. So frickin’ maddening.
Ok. It is way to early for me to have read that absolute truth crap. Now my head will be spinning for the day
I remember the conversation now, he said something about his brother, and I said, Why do you think that’s true? your brother lies all the time, about anything to anyone. And he said”Maybe he lies to survive.” ( No kidding, he said that) I was incredulous! I said he lies to his wife because she won’t let him watch R rated movies and he does it anyway. He teaches his daughters to lie to their Mom , because he allows them to watch, also. He lies about what he eats to his wife because she freaks out if he eats potato chips or Mexican food or , it’s a long crazy list. He actually buys them, eats them, and takes the bag to a park to put in the garbage. His list of lies is endless and he has raised daughters who lie to anyone/everyone they want to, including him. I said, “that not survival”, he could tell the truth and man up, he chooses not to. He could say, “that’s right, these Lays are mine, I’m eating them, divorce me if you want to”, but he chooses not to. And that’s when my husband said, well, there are no absolute truths anyway”, and I was like WTF?? I should have just thanked him for admitting how deeply embedded in the lying culture he is. I’m sure his brother is an SA, I always told my husband that I time how long it takes his brother to work talking about his penis into any given conversation, even with kids present. I was always thinking, “What is wrong with him/” I’m sure his sister’s husband is an SA, again, always worked sexual innuendo or talk of past sexcapades , old girlfriend stuff, into a conversation, timed him too, even if the kids were present, and I’d think “there is something wrong with him, too. ” And I have heard my father-in-law say, “Its not a lie if it gets you what you want.” But somehow, and I have no idea why right now, I thought because my husband didn’t do those things, that he was a stand up guy. I knew he could be an asshole sometimes, but I always thought he was a stand up asshole.
Wow, that is one dysfunctional family, Courtney. They make my head spin.
dr. evil’s family is all kind of messed up, too. I always thought I was really lucky that he had escaped the worst of their pathologies. He was just the best at lying about it.
Oh my God Teri I thought the same thing. His mom had three sons and he was the good one. She would brag to everyone about him being the only good one. He used to say he turned out ok (the others are drug addicts/dealers) because he got out so early by joining the Marines when he was 17, he “got away from that woman in time”. Well on DDay he said he has been acting out since he was 17, so there goes that. Note to self, watch family of significant other closely for bad behavior and never again believe the “i’m the good one” excuse. Courtney that’s just incredible how the whole family justifies lying. Imagine a whole room full of people lying the way SA’s do. It makes my head spin.
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