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i have not been tested and have no idea what i should be tested for i went online and they seem as if its only blood tests i just have no clue i have not had a pap smear in 5 years the last one was fine
I would do every one imaginable. Chlamydia, Gonrreah, Herpes, Hepatitis, HIV, etc…… I am sure there are more, but I went to an aynonomous testing place here that charges around 200 for the entire panel. They actually called it an STD panel. In addition to that, I would go for a pap. Warts don’t show up on traditional testing and can be asymptomatic, but can cause cervical cancer. ( I need to still do this one myself).
Good luck hun, and this is one of the hard parts about being married to a SA. It feels humiliating at the time, but is so very necessary for peace of mind, or early treatment.
Love ya,
LoriI agree with Lori; get tested for everything under the sun, and make sure to get a pap as well, since HPV will not show up on just a blood test alone. I had all my testing done by my OBG..twice..since initial d-day. It was embarrassing for me to go to my OBG since he knows I’m married and have a 2 year old, so I just told the truth; my husband cheated on me constantly with questionable ladies, and I want to make sure he didn’t share their “gems” with me.
hi lori and hurt i do plan on getting tested for everything i found a place a few hours away that does it.i told him hes coming and will pay for it,i figure why should i have to be embarrassed for what hes done.said he can find his own place to go or just let the thing rot off i dont care
Good for you Katt – he needs to have it rot off! Hope your tests come out okay – I will be thinkig of you.
hi ladies i called a place today and was told to wait 2 weeks for testing and that it would need to be repeted at 6 months why the wait is because some things do not show up until that long thanks again
When I caught my husband 4 months ago in an affair and found out he had not used a condom I told him to get in for testing. He refused. His response was “just like you to try and make her out to be a slut”. So I went in. It was very embarrassing because it was the first time I said out loud what was going on in my world. I found out 2 months later that she had slept with someone else the night before and my husband knew it! At that point I tried to get him to admit she was a slut (his word not mine) and that it was unfair to make me out to be a bitch for insisting on testing, he refused and said she is a good person. I think this little scenario screams volumes. I wrote in my journal that night that my marriage is dead. Then I found out about all the others. I am so grateful I went in.
They never said to come back in 6 months…should I get retested? When I was tested I thought there was only 1 affair.
I think hiv/aids can take 6 months to a year to progress. I don’t know about the others. HPV can also take 6 months + (i think) but really that can erupt at any point after you have been exposed, hence the yearly pap tests.
Went in for testing yesterday…it has been over 2 years since disclosure and my counselor told me to get tested a while ago, but I never did. Then, even though he said he was never with anyone physically, I decided to go since he has lied for 20 years. I don’t think anything will surface, but I felt it was necessary to take care of myself. B. Trayed
@Hadj– I’m presuming that you had a pap and that they tested for HPV. If you don’t have it, then you don’t need to come back in 6 months. It is only if it is ACTIVE, as it is with me, that you have to come back and then possibly have a colposcopy, where the doctor shoots your cervix with a vinegar solution and then biopsies any suspicious looking areas. good times. 🙁
You can get HPV even IF your husband is 100% faithful, however, if he’s not your chances go up exponentially… oh, and btw… not all HPV is harmful and almost ALL men have it! It is also possible that you got it from a previous boyfriend if you were sexually active before your marriage and condoms DO NOT always protect from transmission as its passed skin to skin. It usually does go into remission on its own, but if its active, that is when a woman has to be vigilant about her screenings. Please do not be embarrassed. The last time I was screened, at 1:30, my gyn said that i was the SEVENTH woman she had already tested (that day) for this very thing! Its extremely common and certainly nothing to be ashamed of.
I’m glad you went in for tests B. Some STDs have no symptoms, so its better to be on the safe side. If for some reason you do have HPV, please know that in all probability so does every other women he’s had sex with.
xo,
L
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