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you were 25??
I’ll go first. HA HA. This is SO easy. I would walk away without a word. I might bitch about what a sicko he is to my girlfriends for a week or two? THEN, I would put on something nice, fix myself up and get on with my life. I would NOT look back. Karen
PS hope this works. I have NO IDEA what I am doing. 🙂
Well, I was actually 25 when I first found out about his SA. I threw him out for 6 months then fell for his lies again, so I would still throw him out but never have him back. And I would tell his parents exactly what I thought of them for not making their son address his problems.
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xThat’s hard Karen because we had our first child when I was 25. I actually would give my eye teeth to go back to 29, when I was pregnant with our third child because that was his first acting out episode and I almost caught him. He got away with it and he was out of control from that moment on for 20 years until he finally told me what a joke our marriage was. If I had uncovered this mess back then, he wouldn’t have sunk so deep into it, I know. The secrecy fueled so much of it and I do know that I would have been like a dog with a bone if I had just had a shred of evidence… If only….
Dear Lylo,
So many “if onlys” with this? I don’t really know how u handle this? I don’t know how any of us handle it? Maybe we are NOT handling it because we are all on a support site 24/7? Thank God I am a woman 🙂 Karen x
Good question, Karen, have thought about it a lot. I got married at 25, so my first reaction is to say I would walk away and not look back, too…. if I actually were 25 looking into the future. The reality is that when I look back, I have 4 kids I wouldn’t have if I did that,and I can’t regret anything to the point where I didn’t have them, if that makes sense? So for me, my wish is that I could do it over age is 35, starting the minute I was pregnant with my last one.
MarieHi Karen,
Great question and love your posts. If i was 25 i would have never gave him that first kiss (it was wild). He was just so darn charming and handsome…….Yes Karen. Wohoo.
Lets see i met my SA at 28. LOL. I would not do it over, i should have dated more and i should have found a way to meet and date higher caliber men. (still trying to figure out where). But I would take my daughter, the italy/greece cruise and my house…leave the rest. However this whole disaster has made me wiser, smarter….and i met all of you. I am almost not angry about it anymore…if that is possible. I still am angry about all of the hurt and deceipt, however that is how i will remember and leanred from this. Crazy, i know.Flora,
Your post has my little brain ticking over for another question….now that I am a technical wizard? LOL I am formulating something on a more positive note because I am depressing myself with all my blunt negativity! Hope I am NOT going to develop a technology addiction, like Marie’s husband,…could be a slippery slope? One day a thread on SOS…next day hooked on PS3 gaming or smart phones. LOL karen x
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