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Just signed up for the partner intensive. Any thoughts on accomodations? The Tower Beverly Hills doesn’t seem to exist anymore. Residence Inn got some really bad reviews on Trip Advisor, and the Avalon got OK reviews but one said it was really, really noisy from music at the gym late into the night. Any first hand experiences to guide me?
I would LOVE to do the October intensive, but I’m teaching a course during those dates. Aiming for the December intensive, if I haven’t killed him before then.
That would be fantastic! However, I would hate for anyone to put it off! But if it works out that way, what a treat 🙂
Even though I would love to go sooner, I think the timing in December is perhaps better. The one-year mark, since we started treatment (and the alloted time I gave myself and him to get this shit into some recovery) will be March of 2014. So I think doing the intensive a few months before I planned to make my stay/go decision will be good timing for me. I can digest the intensive, see what has changed (or not) in his behavior, and be clear what I need to do or prepare for March. Something just feels right about it.
janeybeth, I signed up for the October. Husband is doing the intensive in September (3 weeks from now). But it sounds like December might be better for you…agree it would be awesome to have a sister there.
It was life changing for me to be at the intensive with Catherine and Trish, truly profound – if you can go with a sister do it! xox
I would love that. Not sure anyone else is doing it though…but I can’t wait until December. I feel like the sooner the better for me.
I will see you in October at the intensive-first time I stayed at crowne plaza last time at Avalon. I am staying at Avalon again -depending on where and what type of room Avalon is actually much better. I like the canon rooms best -just a FYI
I am booked and paid for hotel and flight!
Avalon: is it within walking distance? Something tells me it would be nice not to have to drive, especially into a light pole, after an intensive day of trauma therapy.
Apparently, it is right next door. I just booked my room- asked for a quiet room since I read on trip advisor that there can be noise from the gym and from partying at the pool? Oh…LA fun, I guess.
I have done 2 individual “intensives” with Dr. M and his somatic therapist and my husband went to a one-day workshop on the trauma model. It has been the best thing possible for me, but it is really hard work for me because I am so “in my head.”
Jenny – yes Avalon, Crowne Plaza, and Residence Inn are all within walking distance. Avalon has great customer service and is the closest. The room I stayed in was a suite and it was quiet and really nice – in the canon building. The restaurant is great and room service was my best friend! It is within walking distance to Rodeo Drive and a few restaurants. Crowne plaza is the most cookie cutter hotel and is also good. Room wasn’t as fancy, food wasn’t as good, but it has more rooms and is also close to a couple of restaurants and within walking distance.
Last time I looked the Avalon was a bit cheaper (ISH also has a rate of $195 if you call the Avalon) – although I prefer anonymity so I just book online.
The individual “intensive” is the one I plan to do. Before going, did anyone provide Minwalla with a background story? Does he gain that mostly from the initial phone call? If I go, I don’t waste all my time there giving the long story. It would take me a full day to give my history. I wonder if I could email it to him before he sees me. Or have my trauma therapist write him a letter.
I am so in my head too, Barbra.
I checked the Avalon’s reservation system on their website, and the rate for December’s intensive is something like 175/night.
Victoria I had a half hour phone conversation with Omar at the point my husband and I were deciding which treatment would best suit us. Omar thought the best option for us was for me to attend the partner intensive. I don’t think it is necessary for Omar to know the ins and outs of your relationship. If you are suffering as a result of his behaviours then the intensive is for you. Your partner’s recovery is not relevant to your healing.
I thought the Avalon was great. My room was very clean and spacious and I was quite sad to leave it after my 7 nights. It had become my sanctuary.Thanks Catherine.
Paying that kind of money, I think it would be vital for me, for my own ability to trust he will help me, for Dr. M to know what I have been through during my trauma. Not the ins and outs of my relationship, but what I myself have experienced and suffered — types of abuse, critical incidents that added to my trauma and PTSD. We are all not the same, even though our sex addicts are similar creatures. It hasn’t only been my SA’s behaviors though, it’s been others. A massive part of trauma help is ‘What happened to you?’ Not only ‘What’s wrong with you?’
I am concerned about $AU, my heart sinks every time I watch the news. Was the dollar still above parity when you went?
Victoria, I spoke to Minwalla last week by phone. He did not ask about the history of my marriage or my h’s acting out. He asked me “what do you need?” I told him I needed to find some way to determine whether I could trust what my h is saying after all the deception, I needed outside eyes and ears to listen and look at my h since I no longer trusted my own eyes and ears and I needed to find my own heart and mind to listen to myself and help me decide what was best for me. He said all that could happen between my h’s IOP and the partner’s one. I hope he’s right.
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