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Wait!!! We can’t go without NAP. Please tell me, JoAnn that you’ve got NAP all squared away and ready to join us all at the new site.
JoAnn,
How long will these forum topics be available for viewing? I’m hoping to print out some of my posts for my journal.
Come on sisters, let’s get posting on the new site!
Claire
Oh, and by the way, I had been asking him to move out since September. But noooooo he had to ruin the holidays for me. He moved out on Dec. 26th.
That’s okay, my STBXSA has told his probation officer that he moved out because he knows that while he’s serving his sentence under house arrest that his home is subject to search. And he “he couldn’t bear to see me go through that again”. No doubt that’s what he is telling everyone.
What a piece of work. They are all the same, LouAnn. Sorry for your frustrating day. I had one too.
You are awesome! I know exactly how you felt before telling her and after. The not knowing how they will react is very troubling. But then the feeling of relief when you realize they have understanding and compassion for you is absolutely jubilant. I’m so very proud of you. It’s one of the hardest things to do. Congrats girlfriend. You rock. 🙂
Welcome katjja,
So glad you found this site. I’m so sorry for your situation and unfortunately it sounds so similar to the stories of other sisters on the site. You will find love, support, caring, and understanding here. We share tears, laughter, anger, and sometimes we cuss like sailors. But we all have one thing in common and it’s these guys we married.
Please take your time and read the posts, I’m sure you will relate. There are no easy answers to your situation or ours, but hopefully you will find your way with our help.
Much love, Claire
I just had an image of all us sisters having a party with some chasing others with strap-on’s on. Laughing hysterically 🙂
Happy Birthday!
Lisa, you are on the right track for sure. May this birthday and all the rest be some of the best ever!
Much love, ClaireLOL Teri, You made me laugh! You are right though.
She’s (my Mom) at that age where everything has a simple answer. When she was here over a year ago, I had her completely understanding the whole situation. Sadly, she is losing her memory a little and I don’t think she remembers the whole story. Sad to see. When she was here, she looked through every page of a photo album that she made for me some 20 years ago. Pictures of me growing up, in all the homes we lived in, she even wrote in detail all of the things I did growing up down to what my first word was and when she got to the end of the photo album, she closed it, looked up at me and said, wow, that was a lot of work, who made it for you? 🙁 I was so sad. My sister, who lives with her in Florida, says she’s not getting any worse but it’s still just sad. Maybe she did forget all the little details of my situation and she really thinks that it’s that simple to fix. Since this would be divorce #2 for me, she probably thinks i’m not trying hard enough to work it out. She gives me and my sister a hard time about our choice in men, but my two brothers, can do no wrong. She’s really male oriented, like men can do no wrong. Plus she’s not happy with the divorce word in general because we were raised catholic. I guess I really can’t let her opinion matter to me one way or another given her age, but it’s just so sad.
I need my Mommy!
Never loan anyone any money. Don’t let anyone know how much money you have. Never give your pin number out. And never let anyone use your credit card. Also, don’t ever let anyone borrow your car.
Oh Daisy. Nothing hurts more than knowing our children and hurting and there’s nothing we can do about it. God bless him for coming to you. It just goes to show that he has respect for you and values your opinion. He may not be ready to talk now, but at least he knows you’ll be there when he’s ready.
I hope that his drinking was limited to one period of time in his life. He probably believes he’s killed some brain cells because of it and that’s why he didn’t do as well as he thought he could. He’s learning the hard way that there will be disappointments in life and while they make us sad and sometimes regretful, we learn from them and move on.
You are such a good Mom. Don’t ever doubt that for a second. I made a lot of huge mistakes with my son and we are closer now that we have ever been. He’s always coming to me for advice. Me . . . the one who has screwed up her own life in so many ways. But he respects that I have faced and overcome everything that crossed my path.
Be good to yourself and try not to worry too much. Maybe draft a letter to him and say some of the things you think he might like to know.
Please know that I’m thinking of you and I love you dearly.
Claire
That saying, Bev, reminds me of a song I heard, don’t know who sang it. But it says “my give-a-damn is busted”
I was talking to our CPA today about our taxes and I started stuttering. I knew what I wanted to say and I knew what I was talking about. I have the intelligence, but to hear me try to convey my point these days is just sad. I must sound stupid. I can’t even write anymore. Look at this paragraph where every sentence starts with the word I. I just can’t think of how to word anything anymore. This CPA used to be my boss. She knows how smart I am and I could see from her facial expressions that she felt pity for me.. I appreciate that, but that’s not what I want! But ask me what i want and I can’t tell you! Fuck!
I too, have isolated but that’s not much different from my normal M.O. I’ve always been one to keep to myself, and honestly I think that’s why these guys choose us. they figure we will keep it quiet because we are quiet by nature. Assholes.
Sorry, I had to see him today and I’m not in a good mood.
Bev, I can’t even get my nails done because I don’t have any. So much anxiety in this body that I’m even chewing my fingernails.
Wow! I’m 55 and I thought I would recognize this song, but I never heard it before. Can certainly tell it was back in the sixties style music. The lyrics are stunning and can really hit home. Thanks for posting.
That’s awesome news, Desiree. If only your brother knew how much you have done for him. You have got to be the best sister anyone can have. Kudos to you and glad you are my sister too.
Much love, ClaireTeri,
So glad you are seeing some progress. I think you probably can find some kind of work part time to help you out financially. Maybe you can work from home blogging, writing, something online. You’re pretty smart, I bet you can come up with something.
Still praying for you guys.
Much love, Claire