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Have been struggling all day today. Went to a funeral graveside service this morning, and I became sad and then resentful. Sort of crazy but it’s my truth.
Can someone identify with this today. Could use some support if possible,,,
Thank you for anythingHi Zachette,
Could you please explain some more? I am not sure what you are sad and resentfull about? Is it because they had a spouse that died? or you wish your SA would die?Flora
did this symbolize your relationship because i to often feel sad and then resentful when i look back over the years i have wasted, this whole sa thing has very much become a death of what i believed my life was. just tossing around some thoughts ive had
much love kattZachette, I was wondering the same thing as Flora. Is it along the lines of what Katt said?
Love and hugs, ZGHi Zachette,
I think our emotions become erratic during times of stress and trauma. It’s likely our brains way of keeping itself from a meltdown of some sort. I know from my experience, my emotions can really swing and sometimes are inappropriate or non responsive. SA is very difficult on the spouse and we are spending much of our time just coping with the aftermath of such a shock. I do feel very resentful towards my XSAH and rightfully so. I dont know the context of your emotions, however, I do know they can really be all over the place. Thinking of you, love, napbetter late than never, I just saw your replies and thanks to each of you.
The person that died, was not a great person – she was a nice lady, mother, grandmother bla bla bla, but the bullshit stories from her children just through me over the edge. All her kids talked about her while she was alive like a dog, and now that she is dead and gone, they are praising her like she was mother and grandmother of the year.
It just got to me and I had to get that off my chest. It really had nothing to do with my SA, although he is a lying, cheating asswipe.Hi Zachette,
Thanks for the friend request; I am unable to respond back to add you as a friend? Don’t know if there is a glitch in the program, but I will try later.
I totally relate. We have dealt with so much with the “double life” of our SA, that anything like it can ring a bell. It is very annoying…people choosing selfish, cruel behaviors that later get to be exalted at the end of their lives. The lies continue I guess. What a joke.
A little different than your situation, but I was recently sent a youtube video about our soldier’s sacrifices and it was very well done. Our service men and women have done so much for us. Interestingly, there was a beautiful but sad scene of a funeral, lovely music playing, and the flag was folded ceremonially, and given to the grieving wife. I cried, not for her, not because he died. I cried because I was that wife; he was gone, the husband I once had, perhaps only in my imagination, was gone…forever. The reality of that devastated me.
So much has died for us.
much love, b. trayedHi Zachette and Btrayed,
It is amazing at the hipocracy in life. We can not control how others choose to live thier lives. We can only choose how we live ours. This would include the friends we choose, the jobs we have, and our relationships, and partners. We always have the power and the right to choose (thank goodness!)Love, Nap
hi ladies i can relate my first husband died a few years ago and he was a monster. my kids went through hell with him too. since he died he is now god in may ways i hate how that happens. here is something i saved and look at it often-
http://www.thedashmovie.com/walkthetalk
much love kattNAP,
Great thought! Integrity, being the same throughout, is so beautiful and so honorable and so loving to others. We can have integrity, and my disdain for hyprocisy has never been greater!
xo, b.Thanks Katt,
That was wonderful. I am so sorry you were mistreated by your previous husband. You have endured much, as have your children. hugs, B. Trayed
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